Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Awesome! I will take it to a store to have "L & S" engraved on the heart in some nice font; it's both of our initials……..or is that just too corny? Lol!

Honest opinion on this. I'd only do her initials. By adding yours, you are putting an expiration date on a gift and jewelry. Look at this way, if she were to buy you a bad ass watch, then had her initials on it; after you break up, how likely are you to continue to wear the watch? Even if you were cool to wear it after the break up, if you are wearing it and another female inquires about the engraving.....

Just a thought. Been down this road. The ex-wife had a really nice watch that her ex-husbands parents bought for her. I'm a watch guy so I commented on it in the early days. She explained the situation and it became a sore subject after. Then she got to where she only wore it when she wanted to piss me off. If you were married, totally do both initials as it becomes something greater after that.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Honest opinion on this. I'd only do her initials. By adding yours, you are putting an expiration date on a gift and jewelry. Look at this way, if she were to buy you a bad ass watch, then had her initials on it; after you break up, how likely are you to continue to wear the watch? Even if you were cool to wear it after the break up, if you are wearing it and another female inquires about the engraving.....

Just a thought. Been down this road. The ex-wife had a really nice watch that her ex-husbands parents bought for her. I'm a watch guy so I commented on it in the early days. She explained the situation and it became a sore subject after. Then she got to where she only wore it when she wanted to piss me off. If you were married, totally do both initials as it becomes something greater after that.

I disagree. It's a bracelet with a small heart - that calls for both initials. I'd be scratching my head if I got that gift with only my initials.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I disagree. It's a bracelet with a small heart - that calls for both initials. I'd be scratching my head if I got that gift with only my initials.

Alright.

[________]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

I disagree. It's a bracelet with a small heart - that calls for both initials. I'd be scratching my head if I got that gift with only my initials.

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Honest opinion on this. I'd only do her initials. By adding yours, you are putting an expiration date on a gift and jewelry. Look at this way, if she were to buy you a bad ass watch, then had her initials on it; after you break up, how likely are you to continue to wear the watch? Even if you were cool to wear it after the break up, if you are wearing it and another female inquires about the engraving.....

Just a thought. Been down this road. The ex-wife had a really nice watch that her ex-husbands parents bought for her. I'm a watch guy so I commented on it in the early days. She explained the situation and it became a sore subject after. Then she got to where she only wore it when she wanted to piss me off. If you were married, totally do both initials as it becomes something greater after that.

You're both talking the same thing and agreeing with one another.

Rudi did say "if you're married, do it". Steve is obviously as married as the day is long.

[rebekahb]

I would vote maybe her initial monogram on the back of the heart. I'm not overly sentimental. I love my husband but having our initials together on a piece of jewelry is just not my thing.

[dinonz]

Wow - what a breath of fresh air! Smells cleaner and fresher in here - the smell of bullshit has faded already!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Wow - what a breath of fresh air! Smells cleaner and fresher in here - the smell of bullshit has faded already!

Agreed! It just "feels" better in here.

[Mein11]

In regards to the bracelet...., no initials at all. Personalized shit is weird to me.

[Sedan_Clan]

Thanks for the varying opinions. I appreciate them all. The perspectives definitely provide me some options to consider as it pertains to the bracelet. Admittedly, the thought of engraving only her initials is my least favorite of the suggested options. I feel inclined to either avoid engraving altogether or go with our initials.

This relationship is emotional significant/substantial for a myriad of reasons (…I'll explain after briefing at 1420 hours; we're preparing for unrest related to the Rittenhouse trial), that's why our initials sounded like such a great idea.

[TiMSport]

I'd say go w/o the initials. This is just one of many opinions obviously.

[cmyx6go]

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy’s perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman’s perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy's perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman's perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

Thank you for that. I'm going to take your advice.




P.S. Sorry fellas! Gotta listen to the lady.

[TiMSport]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Thank you for that. I'm going to take your advice.




P.S. Sorry fellas! Gotta listen to the lady.

See, you're whipped already!
I'm kidding.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

HOOOOOO BOY

1- do i have a few stories about insecurities in a relationship, partly reason why i self-destructed mine and lost respect for her a few times over

2- boy do i have some choice words about a person that can suck the energy out of a room… idk if it was depression or other issues (she had a lot. she genuinely tried to be good 80% of the time and i think just couldnt help it the remaining 20%)

i hate texting on my phone (you guys made me feel old already) but at home i PROMISE i will be spilling some beans.

ok so

1- i've been turned insecure because of her insecurity (as not-accepty as it sounds). at first our relationship was solid, or so i thought. 3-4 months in she confesses that she kept a daily eye on my instagram followers/following to check i wasn't following someone new. she told me this on NYE 2021, btw. also some time later said to my face "yea you wouldn't have any hoes or anything". i took that personal as if she was assuming i had no other options. not great to keep someone in a relationship by scaring them i can run away every second, but felt like she was taking me for granted. and whenever i asked for some alone time it'd come back as "do you not love me anymore why dont you want to spend time with me". eventually i started seeing a therapist (he was useless but had 3-4 sessions) to figure this shit out (huge red flag: your partner shouldn't have to resort to a therapist to be able to handle your relationship). eventually i think she got bored of being so close with me all the time, but now i was feeling like she was being sketchy by avoiding me and it just lead to problems. for the most part it's not me putting my foot down and giving her the benefit of the doubt lol

2- "I don't think you have it in you to change your life for the better", she said. I do not have a good answer why I didn't drop her right then and there, honestly. But hearing that really broke me. I'd never heard anyone basically call me a failure before. About three months after that I got a new job that pays me 16% more, got my BMW, moved to a wonderful place, and let her out of my life. I know I have it in me. I don't need to prove that to anyone but myself.

Or the countless times I told her, tell me something nice that happened in your day, anything. Down to a "I saw a cute dog" or "I saw a cool car", "I had a nice meal". It was like she always had something wrong going on in her life and that something was always bad. She admitted that I was right in calling her out on this, in that it's almost a habit for her to have a "rough day". Not too long after she did we broke up, because she was being too negative. Even when breaking up everything was my fault. Did you know I should've given her a courtesy heads-up and broken up with her before Tuesday so she could have asked for a different location at her firm?

Good fucking riddance. I managed to fill myself up with this post hahaha - I know I was no angel either but given how much I know about her family, her family life; comparing that with me and my past relationships, I know I am better off not being in that relationship.


sorry if this is too long! i have a year and a half's worth of content if anyone's interested.

[cmyx6go]

Pickle - insecurity and lack of trust is a major red flag. I hate typing long responses on my phone. Will follow up tomorrow. You did the right thing. Pm me if you want.

[Mein11]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy’s perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman’s perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

I don't disagree with you because you're wrong, I disagree with you because I'm right.

Joking aside, if it's truly a special relationship, then I see nothing wrong with doing initials. It does show real thought and effort, something all men should do, and arguably something I could have done better with.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Wow - what a breath of fresh air! Smells cleaner and fresher in here - the smell of bullshit has faded already!

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[IllSic_Design]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

As someone who grew up riding dirt bikes it makes me not want to even associate with people in that group. Like bro why are you wearing your riding gear in the grocery store?

same, I rode and raced most of my younger years.... he's like the stereotypical douchebag motocross rider

Edit: haha I did report one of his posts just because he was being so annoying

[________]

Since you guys did such a good job, why don't you help out further clean up this place? Go to the racing forum, help report some of Rick and MPowerBelgium posts there too… if you go to the Brazil thread you'll see everything from personal insults to racism. Which I thought equaled ban…

Thanks on behalf of race lovers.

[rebekahb]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman's perspective.

No, nothing to do with being married. I've just never been that person who would want something to wear with either me and my boyfriends or husbands initial. It seems very elementary to me and I mean that in the nicest way possible! It's not something I would have ever wanted dating someone as an adult. BUT, that's just me and I don't know this girl nor their relationship. I feel like Sedan knows her & what she likes best. He's putting a lot of thought into the gift and that's what matters most.

[TiMSport]

Originally Posted by Onesie

Since you guys did such a good job, why don't you help out further clean up this place? Go to the racing forum, help report some of Rick and MPowerBelgium posts there too… if you go to the Brazil thread you'll see everything from personal insults to racism. Which I thought equaled ban…

Thanks on behalf of race lovers.

Damn, lol. I guess no one reads or monitors those forums.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Pickle - insecurity and lack of trust is a major red flag. I hate typing long responses on my phone. Will follow up tomorrow. You did the right thing. Pm me if you want.

Now I'm intrigued...

But, you're right - she did a great job at hiding hers until she "came clean". I did not, which honestly ultimately led to the downfall. I'm no angel here either I def could've been a better partner; hindsight is 20/20.

I just got done separating her books from mine, I want to ship them out along with her coats but I'm not in a rush...
I started picking them out thinking it'd help me feel better (out of sight out of mind) but I don't think I care enough to do anything with them other than reclaim some space in my closet.