WTF did I ever do to her?

[Lups]

Tomorrow will be a strange day, and considering who is the op, i guess my strange is more weird than what you all are used to.

My adopted sister has been a bit low lately and I've been so busy I haven't had the time to be there for her.

Tomorrow I will. We have a spa day, and considering that I don't allow strangers to touch me, it means she'll have a spa day and I'll be sitting there. We are also going out, dancing. Considering that I only wear sneakers and sweats while working, the first time in four years will be a trial.

Also, a makeup artist told me that my best chance of covering my face is darkness.

So I ask you, all of you... why the fuck do we have friends?

To be fair, i tried to post a pic of my current self here. Im somewhat covered in motoroil and in some tarmac filler and this site completely refused to load it.

[BSM n54iS]

To answer you question: I don't

[Banana Hammock]

What are friends?

[Darth One]

In for pic of Lups

[Emilime75]

That's why I only keep a small, close group...like maybe 3 or 4...and they're all kinda homebodies. As an example, our last 3 new year's eve parties were at someone's house, and the dress code was pajamas. We had a Max of 6 attendees at each. It was great.

[Run Silent]

Originally Posted by Lups

Tomorrow will be a strange day, and considering who is the op, i guess my strange is more weird than what you all are used to.

My adopted sister has been a bit low lately and I've been so busy I haven't had the time to be there for her.

Tomorrow I will. We have a spa day, and considering that I don't allow strangers to touch me, it means she'll have a spa day and I'll be sitting there. We are also going out, dancing. Considering that I only wear sneakers and sweats while working, the first time in four years will be a trial.

Also, a makeup artist told me that my best chance of covering my face is darkness.

So I ask you, all of you... why the fuck do we have friends?

To be fair, i tried to post a pic of my current self here. Im somewhat covered in motoroil and in some tarmac filler and this site completely refused to load it.

So I think you are failing to bifurcate 'friend' from 'family'. I have several family members that I am not fond of, but still will do things with because it's the right thing to do. Your current scenario falls into this bucket.

For friends, if we no longer have the same likes, goals, desires, etc, then I will frequently drift away from them. As such, I now only have a handful of friends that I spend anytime with at all. I am fine with that.

My wife chuckles at this. She says she doesn't know why I married her because I don't like anybody. I told her she is the one in the world I do like, so I decided to keep her. Then, we had a daughter, so I made a spare just in case. Now I have two people that I like. It's good to have a backup.

[King Rudi]

^Damn that was creepy.

Lups, flip the script and you give the guy massaging your sister a massage. Make that shit as weird as you possibly can. I know you can do it!

[Lups]

Originally Posted by BdSM n54iS

To answer you question: I don't

You have me, it counts!

My mildly adopted sister has been here for me always, since she was 2, and I was 12. Last autumn I was so fucked up with my ribs and with my cramping muscles I taught her to do a lot when it comes to renovations just because she needed to learn, and I couldn't.

I've tried six dresses on. My shoulders are too big and my boobs are too high. I have some really long t shirts I can cut to be fashionable (in some hicksville) dresses.

I had to cut my hair a few months ago, after I dipped over a ft of it to a water sealing thingy. Currently, my face is somewhat black thanks to an oil explosion and also me trying to seal up a well. My white hair is also mostly something covered in branches.

My fingernails are somewhat disgusting, but mostly covered in tarr. My hands are dark, some white can be seen..

I did however get the car I taught her to drive in when she was 13 running again. I also called my ex;who owns a biker bar here and demanded that we get the stripper polls for an hour. I also called my cop friends so we get a ride from them when we go home.

Rally, bikes, cops. I'm scared mostly since I thought of shoes and boobs and bras, but my husband told me I have the shoulders most men die for and that if I wear my water line dresses, they'll reach my belly at best.

Men have it so easy.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

So I think you are failing to bifurcate 'friend' from 'family'. I have several family members that I am not fond of, but still will do things with because it's the right thing to do. Your current scenario falls into this bucket.

For friends, if we no longer have the same likes, goals, desires, etc, then I will frequently drift away from them. As such, I now only have a handful of friends that I spend anytime with at all. I am fine with that.

My wife chuckles at this. She says she doesn't know why I married her because I don't like anybody. I told her she is the one in the world I do like, so I decided to keep her. Then, we had a daughter, so I made a spare just in case. Now I have two people that I like. It's good to have a backup.

She's My old neighbour, 10 years younger than me, but ever since she was about 2, i mildly adopted her. She's a part of my family. She's the godmother of my youngest, she's family.

[Run Silent]

Originally Posted by Lups

She's My old neighbour, 10 years younger than me, but ever since she was about 2, i mildly adopted her. She's a part of my family. She's the godmother of my youngest, she's family.

Then she's family. Treat her as such. Do things you don't necessarily want to because it makes her happy and it's the right thing to do.

If the boobs are too high, that's the opposite of the problem of most women over 30. Consider that a win. As for man shoulders, pull out a retro 80's outfit and just tell everyone it has shoulder pads. If anyone questions it and attempts to check, hit 'em in the face with a tall boob.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

^Damn that was creepy.

Lups, flip the script and you give the guy massaging your sister a massage. Make that shit as weird as you possibly can. I know you can do it!

Oh fuck, i cant disrespect a person doing their job like that!

I just don't, never have, like to be touched. My remote physical therapy sessions are kinda funny, the only pro who gets to touch me knows me by now after 20 years so he just keeps telling me how to move from his assigned corner.

[Yapakanichi]

I think I had that picture on my trapper keeper lol. Maybe I'm thinking of saved by the bell

I'd do more for friends I consider family than family members.....eh my family members never call me...my friends call me.

Don't you hate it when people tell you to call so and so family member, but when you say "the phone goes both ways, they can call me too" well then you're the asshole.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

Then she's family. Treat her as such. Do things you don't necessarily want to because it makes her happy and it's the right thing to do.

If the boobs are too high, that's the opposite of the problem of most women over 30. Consider that a win. As for man shoulders, pull out a retro 80's outfit and just tell everyone it has shoulder pads. If anyone questions it and attempts to check, hit 'em in the face with a tall boob.

You're good at finding bad photos of me, but apparently for good tips too.

The lowest heels I found are 4". I have worn heels 2 times after I hurt my ankle after my dad died 6 years ago.

I have terpentine I can get at least some of the goo off with. I can handle the shoes. I just don't want to wear a dress. But as you said, i just must.

[F30lolz]

No need for pics. Don’t want my iPhone screen cracking.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

I try. Figured the cucumber one was a bit too far. You actually look pretty hip in those photos, so I thought they were a good choice. Remind me of Kay Hanley from Letters to Cleo back in the early 90's.

Those are from the 90's. I was something like 14-16 in those.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Run Silent

I try. Figured the cucumber one was a bit too far. You actually look pretty hip in those photos, so I thought they were a good choice. Remind me of Kay Hanley from Letters to Cleo back in the early 90's.

Originally Posted by Lups

Those are from the 90's. I was something like 14-16 in those.

So...Run Silent - will you be Joe Biden's running mate then?



Lups, I've nothing to offer except my usual sarcasm, because I don't really see a dilemma here. You know what you need to do.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

So...Run Silent - will you be Joe Biden's running mate then?



Lups, I've nothing to offer except my usual sarcasm, because I don't really see a dilemma here. You know what you need to do.

I know it.
You know it.

It'll be weird, i got a hairdresser and all booked. I think if found a shirt that makes my weirdly muscular torso look okay, i can even wear a bra with it so I can have a wallet with me. I have a skirt too, all my dresses were not wearable.

I can handle the dress, or a skirt, or a shirt or even walking around naked. I'm just seriously scared because I don't know how I can help my sis. She's in every way better than I am, the only thing I can't give her is the needed confidence, the knowledge she truly is what I see in her.

This thread is basically the best thing I can do. She can read through this and then she'll see how hard I tried, if I fail miserably.

[Run Silent]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

So...Run Silent - will you be Joe Biden's running mate then?



Lups, I've nothing to offer except my usual sarcasm, because I don't really see a dilemma here. You know what you need to do.

I think I'm safe. Never know about political aspirations in the future (not really), so I went with 'hip' over any other adjective. Figure that is appropriate for a 6, 16, or 86 yo with fashion sense.

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Lups

I know it.
You know it.

It'll be weird, i got a hairdresser and all booked. I think if found a shirt that makes my weirdly muscular torso look okay, i can even wear a bra with it so I can have a wallet with me. I have a skirt too, all my dresses were not wearable.

I can handle the dress, or a skirt, or a shirt or even walking around naked. I'm just seriously scared because I don't know how I can help my sis. She's in every way better than I am, the only thing I can't give her is the needed confidence, the knowledge she truly is what I see in her.

This thread is basically the best thing I can do. She can read through this and then she'll see how hard I tried, if I fail miserably.

She's the one that recently broke up with a longer term boyfriend yes?

So what's the goal here that you have for her? Tell me it isn't to find her some guy - that isn't the point of all this is it, the hair, dancing, etc?

If she likes you, she likes you for who you are, warts and...well, warts. But there's some good in there. Which means she likes spending time with you doing stuff you've always done, and still enjoys it. Its nice you are trying to structure something more to what you perceive she enjoys, and I'm sure she'll appreciate it, but I don't think you have to go too far out of your comfort zone for her to still appreciate the time with you, because she's obviously appreciates you for who you are.

So telling her that you are spending the day together is going to be meaningful no matter what you do, as long as you don't make it about your troubles and instead get her to talk about her life.

And frick me, after having re-read all of the above, I can really only conclude that it sounds like some sort of advice on how to have a successful lesbian relationship, which I have no idea about, so basically you might as well just ignore everything I just said since it sucks. But I'm not going to delete it, so there.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by Lups

I know it.
You know it.

It'll be weird, i got a hairdresser and all booked. I think if found a shirt that makes my weirdly muscular torso look okay, i can even wear a bra with it so I can have a wallet with me. I have a skirt too, all my dresses were not wearable.

I can handle the dress, or a skirt, or a shirt or even walking around naked. I'm just seriously scared because I don't know how I can help my sis. She's in every way better than I am, the only thing I can't give her is the needed confidence, the knowledge she truly is what I see in her.

This thread is basically the best thing I can do. She can read through this and then she'll see how hard I tried, if I fail miserably.

I'm still in the process of learning the people here, and I've read quite a bit of your past posts only because of "signature" quotes I've seen made by you or referring to you.

For whatever it's worth, I think you would be the type of person I would enjoy hanging out with just because of your perspective on most things. And that's saying a lot for me because I keep a really tight social circle.

But you seem to be a genuine individual who is straight up and upfront about everything, and not bothered by stuff that a lot of people are typically petty about.

Plus I enjoy your sense of humor whether it's implied or not. You and my wife seem to share a lot of similarities in personality from what little bit I have gathered.

I'm sure you will do fine no matter what the evening brings.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

She's the one that recently broke up with a longer term boyfriend yes?

So what's the goal here that you have for her? Tell me it isn't to find her some guy - that isn't the point of all this is it, the hair, dancing, etc?

If she likes you, she likes you for who you are, warts and...well, warts. But there's some good in there. Which means she likes spending time with you doing stuff you've always done, and still enjoys it. Its nice you are trying to structure something more to what you perceive she enjoys, and I'm sure she'll appreciate it, but I don't think you have to go too far out of your comfort zone for her to still appreciate the time with you, because she's obviously appreciates you for who you are.

So telling her that you are spending the day together is going to be meaningful no matter what you do, as long as you don't make it about your troubles and instead get her to talk about her life.

And frick me, after having re-read all of the above, I can really only conclude that it sounds like some sort of advice on how to have a successful lesbian relationship, which I have no idea about, so basically you might as well just ignore everything I just said since it sucks. But I'm not going to delete it, so there.

We've met here?


I'm still laughing. Hold, please.

Yeah, a long term boyfriend, totally hetero, you'd approve.

This isn't about her finding some guy either. She needs a boost, she needs to feels appreciated and since she's a female, females tend to need a more pampering touch than my "hey, you're pissed off, I'll teach you how to change oils."- approach.

I'm so out of my comfort zone. I'm way better with my male friends.

I found a dress I can fit in to. Can't sit but who cares

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

I'm still in the process of learning the people here, and I've read quite a bit of your past posts only because of "signature" quotes I've seen made by you or referring to you.

For whatever it's worth, I think you would be the type of person I would enjoy hanging out with just because of your perspective on most things. And that's saying a lot for me because I keep a really tight social circle.

But you seem to be a genuine individual who is straight up and upfront about everything, and not bothered by stuff that a lot of people are typically petty about.

Plus I enjoy your sense of humor whether it's implied or not. You and my wife seem to share a lot of similarities in personality from what little bit I have gathered.

I'm sure you will do fine no matter what the evening brings.

This post is one of the kindest things I've read on this forum. Thank you for taking the time. I'm not joking with this one, you gave me a boost that was needed, I'm a bit clueless when it comes to females in general, and my adopted sister/ one of my closest friends especially.

Thank you.

Do note that most of the shitty side posts are done in jest here, most of us oldies know each other well enough to be like that. Most of these guys know that at times I need to be kicked a bit to find the spine for the outside world they keep meeting here. Im seriously antisocial if I can be.