Why do some women say no?

[BMW F22]

Just heard on the radio some guy proposed to his woman in front of thousands and she said no.

Saw videos of similar things in the past as well and curious as to why some say no. I mean, if you've been in a relationship for a while, isn't it the natural progression?

[Verbiage]

InB4 women respond.

[Mr Tonka]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Just heard on the radio some guy proposed to his woman in front of thousands and she said no.

Saw videos of similar things in the past as well and curious as to why some say no. I mean, if you've been in a relationship for a while, isn't it the natural progression?

The guys that were denied should be glad they said no. Much easier that way. I mean, who want's to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them?

[Adamrt]

How about this poor girl asking her boyfriend!!

Adele kicked off her world tour by helping a female fan take a leap of faith ... dropping a Leap Year proposal on her boyfriend in the middle of the concert -- but it did not go as planned.
No one will question the power of Adele's voice, but during Monday night's show in Belfast ... even that wasn't enough to convince the reluctant dude to say "yes" to his gf.
Watch ... things got uncomfortable when the crowd started booing the bf for beating around the bush after Adele and his gf single him out in the crowd.
He eventually musters up a few head nods, but looks like he's keeping his options open. This relationship really might be water under the bridge.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by Mr Tonka

The guys that were denied should be glad they said no. Much easier that way. I mean, who want's to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them?

Then why even be dating someone...? You know?

[Beartato]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Then why even be dating someone...? You know?

Not everyone dates someone with intent of marrying them.

[Mr Tonka]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Then why even be dating someone...? You know?

Uh.... to figure out if they might want to spend their lives with someone?

Was this a trick question?

[Verbiage]

The concept of marriage puts a lot of things into perspective. Might not be a matter of not wanting to be with someone, but rather being with them in that manner. Lots of people are together for years on end without formally tying the knot.



Guess it's just personal preference.

[Mr Tonka]

Originally Posted by Beartato

Not everyone dates someone with intent of marrying them.

I think for this exercise we're going to assume that the people involved in these hypotheticals intend to marry at some point in their life.

(hopefully NOT because its just the next logical step though)

[Biorin]

Is this a real question? People are different. There's no set amount of time after which every person on the planet feels ready to be in a marriage with the person they're dating.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by Beartato

Not everyone dates someone with intent of marrying them.

I get that. But let's say if you're with someone for 4-5 years, why waste time if you don't plan on moving forward?

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by Mr Tonka

Uh.... to figure out if they might want to spend their lives with someone?

Was this a trick question?

Same reply as above.

[Chez]

Because they don't want to marry the person who is asking.

[CANGRKE70]

Some people just don't believe in marriage. In Quebec, a lot of people live common law their whole lives with the same person. My sister broke up with a serious boyfriend because she wanted to get married and he didn't believe in it.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Is this a real question? People are different. There's no set amount of time after which every person on the planet feels ready to be in a marriage with the person they're dating.

Yes, there are people that haven't married after 10 years together and there are those that got married within days. I know it varies. However, if after 4-5 years and you bave not figured out whether you wanna be wifh someone, why continue?

[Mr Tonka]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

I get that. But let's say if you're with someone for 4-5 years, why waste time if you don't plan on moving forward?

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Yes, there are people that haven't married after 10 years together and there are those that got married within days. I know it varies. However, if after 4-5 years and you bave not figured out whether you wanna be wifh someone, why continue?

Ruts bro. They are hard to get out of and can become quite comfortable for most people.

Being asked in public, on the spot will likely trigger the most honest response. People don't lie well when the question comes out of the blue and EVERYONE is waiting on your answer.

[Sidewinderpb]

Originally Posted by Adamrt

How about this poor girl asking her boyfriend!!

Adele kicked off her world tour by helping a female fan take a leap of faith ... dropping a Leap Year proposal on her boyfriend in the middle of the concert -- but it did not go as planned.
No one will question the power of Adele's voice, but during Monday night's show in Belfast ... even that wasn't enough to convince the reluctant dude to say "yes" to his gf.
Watch ... things got uncomfortable when the crowd started booing the bf for beating around the bush after Adele and his gf single him out in the crowd.
He eventually musters up a few head nods, but looks like he's keeping his options open. This relationship really might be water under the bridge.

I'd be pissed if I were him. Who wants to be singled out and faced with a life-changing decision in front of thousands of people - especially as a man attending an Adele concert? Honestly, I'm surprised that everyone wasn't holding their breath waiting for those itty bitty stilettos to collapse.

[Biorin]

Originally Posted by BMW F22

Yes, there are people that haven't married after 10 years together and there are those that got married within days. I know it varies. However, if after 4-5 years and you bave not figured out whether you wanna be wifh someone, why continue?

Again, it can take people longer than that, as you mentioned. People also view marriage differently. Some see it as a way of showing the other person you are committed to them; some see it as a lot of legal hassle and feel perfectly comfortable where they are. Sometimes things happen - you could be upset quite deeply by something in your relationship, and the other person may have moved on more quickly and be ready for marriage whereas you may now be having second thoughts, and need more time.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by Adamrt

How about this poor girl asking her boyfriend!!

Adele kicked off her world tour by helping a female fan take a leap of faith ... dropping a Leap Year proposal on her boyfriend in the middle of the concert -- but it did not go as planned.
No one will question the power of Adele's voice, but during Monday night's show in Belfast ... even that wasn't enough to convince the reluctant dude to say "yes" to his gf.
Watch ... things got uncomfortable when the crowd started booing the bf for beating around the bush after Adele and his gf single him out in the crowd.
He eventually musters up a few head nods, but looks like he's keeping his options open. This relationship really might be water under the bridge.

Ouch. That really does suck.

[Beartato]

Originally Posted by Mr Tonka

I think for this exercise we're going to assume that the people involved in these hypotheticals intend to marry at some point in their life.

(hopefully NOT because its just the next logical step though)

Originally Posted by BMW F22

I get that. But let's say if you're with someone for 4-5 years, why waste time if you don't plan on moving forward?

Some people just don't want to be alone, and marriage is a big step. If the guy is reading the relationship wrong and she says no there's nothing wrong with that. She's under no obligation to say yes.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Is this a real question? People are different. There's no set amount of time after which every person on the planet feels ready to be in a marriage with the person they're dating.

How long will you make me wait?

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by Biorin

Again, it can take people longer than that, as you mentioned. People also view marriage differently. Some see it as a way of showing the other person you are committed to them; some see it as a lot of legal hassle and feel perfectly comfortable where they are. Sometimes things happen - you could be upset quite deeply by something in your relationship, and the other person may have moved on more quickly and be ready for marriage whereas you may now be having second thoughts, and need more time.

This. My wife couldn't care less about the "marriage" part. She really did it for me. I grew up thinking this was what showed the world it was real and permanent. She grew up thinking it was a piece of paper and if you don't respect the relationship, why would you respect a piece of paper. We have both seen PLENTY of people who don't respect the paper or the relationship. It is a symbol, in the end. I have a deeper appreciation for symbols than she does. We have lived happily ever after so far - 20 plus years - but it wasn't the paper.