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[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Was the volume on?

... yes, could be worse though, this was a lecture and i was sitting with the boys.

i also teach a section of the engineering orientation course for freshman where we teach them how to be professional and make the best use of their time on campus

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

I took a sign once years ago while on a business trip. We flew into Indiana and in the rental car we passed a church that had the name "Knob" in it.

Well there was a paper sign stuck in the ground about an event they were having and the sign said something to the effect of "Presented by Our Ladies of The Knob".

When we seen it, the VP I was with had to stop and take pictures of it. They had a few of them in various places around the different entrances...so I just pulled it out of the ground and throwed it in the backseat of the car.

Trying to board our flight back, I even tried to "check" the sign through luggage but they made me throw it away because of the 1/8" re-bar that was used to stake it into the ground.

That's a good sign! Well worth the taking!

[1MOREMOD]

So he grabbed someone elses knob then tried to sneak it in a plane and you praise him!

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

Sp he grabbed someone elses knob then tried to sneak it in a plane and you praise him!

It was me that actually took the sign.....at the time I found it hilarious!

[1MOREMOD]

I know I was making fun of you and your knob grabbing

[nyalpine90]

[UncleWede]

I REAALY wanted to see the Keystone Cops (starring Hawkeye ) moving a big safe

[Darth One]

The new Lion King. Highest grossing animated film of all time and I really didn't like it that much. At least, it's definitely not as good as the original

[King Rudi]

Between intermittent fasting, lots of cardio and the amount of protein shakes that I drink. My flatulence has become unbearable at times. To those that are familiar with the Unpleasant Work Environment thread, I have taken the advice of those from the thread. On the days that the co-worker, I share an office with, is being her typical unsavory self, I ensure the air is just as unsavory....then I leave the office the for a while as she gets to marinate in it.

She can now talk all the shit she wants, she can now smell it too. I've had several employees, from other departments, ask me if she has shit her pants in there, after walking through the office. The greatest thing about all of this is, that she just had lap band surgery performed and is constantly complaining about how upset her stomach is, so everyone thinks that it's her. I'm enjoying this way more than I should.

[nyalpine90]

at times i feel guilt and upset about going no contact with my immediate family.
there never seem to be happy moments, it was argument after another, criticism, judgmental. all negative and it was taking a toll on my health and marriage with a baby.
So I did what they didnt think i had the courage to do, walk away 18 months ago and counting.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

at times i feel guilt and upset about going no contact with my immediate family.
there never seem to be happy moments, it was argument after another, criticism, judgmental. all negative and it was taking a toll on my health and marriage with a baby.
So I did what they didnt think i had the courage to do, walk away 18 months ago and counting.

You are better off cutting negativity out of your life. I've started doing that piece by piece and it has certainly helped with my mental well-being.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

at times i feel guilt and upset about going no contact with my immediate family.
there never seem to be happy moments, it was argument after another, criticism, judgmental. all negative and it was taking a toll on my health and marriage with a baby.
So I did what they didnt think i had the courage to do, walk away 18 months ago and counting.

Advice from someone with an addictive personality:

You can always go back for just long enough to remember why you left in the first place. It always made me feel better about my decision of cessation in retrospect. Realistically, it's best just to stay away. Not telling you not to have a relationship with your family, but ridding yourself of toxic environments/relationships destroys you and heals you simultaneously.

What you did took courage.

[RogHer]

I am the second coming of Christ.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by Jon_R

I am the second coming of Christ.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Advice from someone with an addictive personality:

You can always go back for just long enough to remember why you left in the first place. It always made me feel better about my decision of cessation in retrospect. Realistically, it's best just to stay away. Not telling you not to have a relationship with your family, but ridding yourself of toxic environments/relationships destroys you and heals you simultaneously.

What you did took courage.

i tried to establish a relationship with them, but they demanded more and not caring for me & my family. I got tired of not being able to meet their expectations and it seem like bar got higher n higher. I was more of a let down.
I asked myself many times, what am i doing ??? why am i living my life to please them all the time... the only way to end it all was to simply walk away.

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

You are better off cutting negativity out of your life. I've started doing that piece by piece and it has certainly helped with my mental well-being.

it takes a toll on your body, i had disconnected myself from everyone trying to figure out WHY is everything an issue..

i had to learn the hard way that i needed to put myself first, take care of myself in order to provide for my family. i did end up in hospital for few days.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

at times i feel guilt and upset about going no contact with my immediate family.
there never seem to be happy moments, it was argument after another, criticism, judgmental. all negative and it was taking a toll on my health and marriage with a baby.
So I did what they didnt think i had the courage to do, walk away 18 months ago and counting.

Same situation here man. My mom lost all my respect with stuff she has done in the past. So I don't talk to here. I did talk to my dad regularly, but it got to a point where he would never call me, I would always have to initiate the conversation and he would talk to me like I was someone else because she would be in the room and listening.

Before that, I was only called if there were problems or if someone needed help for something. I kept my 2nd wife pretty much completely away from them as my mom is so bad, I knew it would be WW3 because my wife is not the type of person to take any kind of snide remarks...she would give it back.

So I am pretty much in the same boat. I gave everything I had, now I am the one who looks like the "black sheep" of the family because I won't kiss someone's ass.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Same situation here man. My mom lost all my respect with stuff she has done in the past. So I don't talk to here. I did talk to my dad regularly, but it got to a point where he would never call me, I would always have to initiate the conversation and he would talk to me like I was someone else because she would be in the room and listening.

Before that, I was only called if there were problems or if someone needed help for something. I kept my 2nd wife pretty much completely away from them as my mom is so bad, I knew it would be WW3 because my wife is not the type of person to take any kind of snide remarks...she would give it back.

So I am pretty much in the same boat. I gave everything I had, now I am the one who looks like the "black sheep" of the family because I won't kiss someone's ass.

it is really sad to hear this. my dad supported my mom in her wrong doings, never tried to stop her. My mother got my sister and brother involved, they did their share of covering up for my mother. I had to call them and inform them how my child was doing, never cared to stop by my house. I had to literally invite them, and it was short visit. My wife stood by my side thru all of it. even when she greeted them, they wouldnt care to respond.

i do have my moments that i miss them, but i cant go back to that toxic environment.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

i do have my moments that i miss them, but i cant go back to that toxic environment.

Yup, totally not worth it man. Some people are just toxic to your happiness, and will do whatever they want with no regard for how it impacts others. Meanwhile being the bigger person you care about them and want the best for them, but it goes unappreciated. Not worth the stress, life is too short. Spend time with people who appreciate you and who you enjoy being around.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yup, totally not worth it man. Some people are just toxic to your happiness, and will do whatever they want with no regard for how it impacts others. Meanwhile being the bigger person you care about them and want the best for them, but it goes unappreciated. Not worth the stress, life is too short. Spend time with people who appreciate you and who you enjoy being around.

it all comes down to being respectful. thats one thing that will break any relationship apart. when there is no respect, there is no love.

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

it all comes down to being respectful. thats one thing that will break any relationship apart. when there is no respect, there is no love.

Word! How can I love somebody without respect for the very personal person?
Ok, if its just for sex, but thats another story

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

it is really sad to hear this. my dad supported my mom in her wrong doings, never tried to stop her. My mother got my sister and brother involved, they did their share of covering up for my mother. I had to call them and inform them how my child was doing, never cared to stop by my house. I had to literally invite them, and it was short visit. My wife stood by my side thru all of it. even when she greeted them, they wouldnt care to respond.

i do have my moments that i miss them, but i cant go back to that toxic environment.

What's bad in my situation is that my dad knows how she is....but since he has to live with her he just tries to lay low and keep the peace.

And if that means not talking to me to keep her off his back...that is what he does.

She's brought all this stuff upon herself with pretty much anyone she's had a relationship with...but still comes out looking like the victim.

I can't tell you how many times I have heard "I'm a changed person" and her expect everything to be normal.

I'm the type of person that looks at it like show me...don't tell me. So if I don't automatically act like everything is okay....it's only because I'm watching your actions for the next little while as I know she can't keep the facade up for long...and 3-4 days later she is back to her old self.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

What's bad in my situation is that my dad knows how she is....but since he has to live with her he just tries to lay low and keep the peace.

And if that means not talking to me to keep her off his back...that is what he does.

She's brought all this stuff upon herself with pretty much anyone she's had a relationship with...but still comes out looking like the victim.

I can't tell you how many times I have heard "I'm a changed person" and her expect everything to be normal.

I'm the type of person that looks at it like show me...don't tell me. So if I don't automatically act like everything is okay....it's only because I'm watching your actions for the next little while as I know she can't keep the facade up for long...and 3-4 days later she is back to her old self.

I know my mother wont changed, its reason i have kept away until she admits her wrong doing I will stay away. Your situation is very very similar to mine, almost felt your telling my story.