The OFFICIAL online dating thread!

[aozer]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

The hits keep coming. Clearly this woman has no common sense or social skills. I was like WTF?!

lol dude no self respecting male should ever use that long of a 'hey'

[Bups]

To be fair, the last two chicks I dated were older, one was 7 years older and the other was 4 years older. The whole older vs. younger thing is situational because everyone is different and at different points in their lives. Dated girls younger that were more mature than this chick. Maturity is an adapted trait, not aged, there's good people in all age brackets, just as much as there is crazy.

Profile pictures, the best for main pic is shirtless in a dirty bathroom mirror.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by aozer

lol dude no self respecting male should ever use that long of a 'hey'

Sorry, I have a sense of humor.

[nyalpine90]

[Bups]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Sorry, I have a sense of humor.

What do gay horses eat?

[///M Power-Belgium]

Originally Posted by Bups

What do gay horses eat?

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[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by aozer

lol dude no self respecting male should ever use that long of a 'hey'

+1

I thought that the strange chick had started the message first. lol

Humor is often hard to get across through messages, especially a first message. Start out with a joke or something, or questions about her. Women like talking about themselves.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

+1

I thought that the strange chick had started the message first. lol

Humor is often hard to get across through messages, especially a first message. Start out with a joke or something, or questions about her. Women like talking about themselves.

What I do seems to get a lot of replies so. If you can make a woman laugh, you win.

Reading profiles & asking about them is a waste of time. Been there done that. It's a numbers game. Just get the lines in the water.

However, in the spirit of this thread & online dating being a cluster fuck, I will just use a normal hey for a bit & see if things change.

[geogerf]

Yeah it doesn’t matter what is said before the first meeting. Everyone just looks at pictures.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by geogerf

Yeah it doesn’t matter what is said before the first meeting. Everyone just looks at pictures.

Yup, your profile can say nothing or everything. You'll get, or not get, messages based on your photos.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by ///M Power-Belgium

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All right whippersnappers, who all can tell me who is in that GIF? And don't Google it

[Never_Enough]

Another winner. Why do I bother?

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Another winner. Why do I bother?

You're fishing in the wrong pond. Read 37psi 's post and expand your reach a bit. Good luck, my friend.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

You're fishing in the wrong pond. Read 37psi 's post and expand your reach a bit. Good luck, my friend.

The Philly area water supply must be contaminated. I'm unwilling to do a long distance thing so I'm keeping it around 60ish miles from me.


Any other decent free dating sites or apps outside of POF, OKC, Clover & Bumble?

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

The Philly area water supply must be contaminated. I'm unwilling to do a long distance thing so I'm keeping it around 60ish miles from me.


Any other decent free dating sites or apps outside of POF, OKC, Clover & Bumble?

Craigslist.























In all seriousness, don’t do that. Take a stroll through the mall and talk to some people. Bitches love malls.

[Bups]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

Another winner. Why do I bother?

Dude that was pretty bad, imo.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by 37psi

Try a few more paid sites if you haven't for a few months. Might meet serious people on there as they don't want a mess around approach that a free site offers. Fuck distance. How do you know someone living 100 miles away doesn't have plans to move 20 miles away from you? Or has always wanted to move to your state? Or happens to be flying out nearby to visit family? Don't limit yourself with 60 and make the search harder than it already is. The right lady will travel for you or you will for her. Increase the search distance outside of your comfort zone.

Match was a lot of fake profiles & the same idiots I scrolled through on the free sites.Because I have tried the 100 mile radius & just got a lot of "you live too far"

I've done LDR before & no, I won't do it again.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by 37psi

No disrespect but that sounds so cheesy. She said she was busy. Either she is or it is a cop out for not feeling you so let's find out. Avoid chat up lines. They don't always work so you're safer not using them. Keep it natural without it sounding like a job interview. Ice breakers are sometimes good.

Guy: What are you up to this weekend? Or ice breaker: if you were stranded on an island and could only take two things what would you take? - now you're different and may have her interest or she has already made her mind up based on your profile.

Gal: Working! Or. I would take my family photos and hair dryer.

Guy: What do you do for work? Or... What would you rather be doing? Or. Family important then?

Gal: In an office... or... I'd rather be shopping for shoes.

Sometimes you have to talk until someone suggests meeting. Let that someone be her. Don't chase. If she is interested she will suggest coffee or something. Try it this way and see what happens. You don't want to be forward or desperate.

Try loads of sites too rather than one or two. Different ones if you can that are not owned by the same parent company. Different genres of site as well.

One word responses. Not interested or not a good conversation... work might be a sore subject if it comes with a !!! Could mean anything from stuck in a bum job to you're line was crap and she hit you back with some sarcasm... could even try humour.

Gal: working

Guy: sorry to hear that

Experiment so you can adapt your approach. She might come back with how she loves her job. So what does she do? Humour: I'm in the wrong job then. Or it could back fire. Could even try: any plans this Christmas?

These sites can be quite challenging. Women usually have their inbox overflowing and quickly have to sift through the list. Some women (and men) end up talking to more than one person in their attempt to decide. It's up to you what you make of that but I would get to know one at a time. As in don't meet one woman twice in a week and then a second woman on the weekend. My point is if it is going well then go with the flow until the flow don't go.

By the way she didn't exactly disrespect you so need to post her photo with the conversation.

LOL

[nyalpine90]

dam she ran real quick....lol

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by 37psi

It will happen man
Look around though. Go places. Do things. Don't let one or two bad experiences put you off. LDR is not for everyone but can work. Peace out.

I'm getting a kick out of dating these days. It makes for awesome stories to tell my friends. I am perfectly happy w/myself. I don't need someone, just would be nice...until I recall the bad about my past relationships lol. No one around to nag me about too much $ or time on cars etc. Freedom is nice.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Bups

Dude that was pretty bad, imo.

I am going to assume, and hope, that you mean on her end. I clearly did nothing wrong.

[smoosh]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

I am going to assume, and hope, that you mean on her end. I clearly did nothing wrong.

LMFAO You did EVERTHING wrong, guy

Don't be an idiot and listen to what these guys are telling you, they're spot on. First, she said she's "just working." Huge indicator that she isn't particularly enjoying her job. Then? The very next thing out of your god damn mouth is "OMG MEETING ME"...(aka "ME ME ME, everything's about me, I'm an offputting uninteresting egotistical fuck!"). Like cmon man! Don't ask about her miserable fucking job, ask her what's the one thing she can't live without, ask her what her favorite college drinking game was, or who she would fuck marry kill from three celebrities...anything but her fucking job!!!

Also, lose the "!" right off the bat, only use punctuation (other than period) ocassionally to make a point...

Also, she asks if you're bipolar, three texts in, and you insult her...SMFH