Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Sara]

Originally Posted by ///d

Weird what happens when gals stop going for the douchbags

Not saying you used to go for douchbags, but as I get older I hear more and more gals say the same thing you said.

Speaking of smothering, the gf has been super clingy since I got home from overseas. I get it, I was gone for a year, but wholy shit I don't need to you follow along when I'm just running the the gas station to fuel up so I don't have to in the AM before work. And I cant sit on the couch without her needing to be touching me or damn near laying on me.

Couples problems lol. I know in time the clingyness will fade and be back to "normal", I just like my space.

I certainly dated douche bags. Hell, I probably wasn't wifey material either for a long time there lol.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Sara

It's crazy to think what a year can do. A year ago my mindset was much different towards guys than it is now. It's amazing what the right person can do. He's the kindest, most affectionate badass there is. His schedule is perfect. He's here, he goes away. He's here, he goes away. I was worried about being smothered and seeing someone alllll the time in the beginning. His schedule doesn't allow for that. I can't believe I'm saying this but I find myself wanting to see him all the time. Who am I?

All in all, he's good to me and he's good for me

that all sounds good, but did you do background check..
not married with a family in different state....jussaying

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by ///d

Weird what happens when gals stop going for the douchbags

Not saying you used to go for douchbags, but as I get older I hear more and more gals say the same thing you said.

Speaking of smothering, the gf has been super clingy since I got home from overseas. I get it, I was gone for a year, but wholy shit I don't need to you follow along when I'm just running the the gas station to fuel up so I don't have to in the AM before work. And I cant sit on the couch without her needing to be touching me or damn near laying on me.

Couples problems lol. I know in time the clingyness will fade and be back to "normal", I just like my space.

Careful what you wish for!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

that all sounds good, but did you do background check..
not married with a family in different state....jussaying

Years ago I briefly dated a chick who's bio said something like she will conduct a full background check on whoever she's dating

Turns out, her ex bf was paying child support behind her back and she had no clue he even had a kid until one day she got something in the mail lol

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by ///d

Weird what happens when gals stop going for the douchbags

Not saying you used to go for douchbags, but as I get older I hear more and more gals say the same thing you said.

Speaking of smothering, the gf has been super clingy since I got home from overseas. I get it, I was gone for a year, but wholy shit I don't need to you follow along when I'm just running the the gas station to fuel up so I don't have to in the AM before work. And I cant sit on the couch without her needing to be touching me or damn near laying on me.

Couples problems lol. I know in time the clingyness will fade and be back to "normal", I just like my space.

What you're describing is exactly how my cousin's ex was with him. I would joke every time he got up to go pee, why isn't she coming with you hahaha

But you like it. Deep down. It's an amazing feeling to be loved!


If you don't mind me asking, what branch are you in? Enlisted or Officer?

[///d]

Originally Posted by 440i6MT

If you don't mind me asking, what branch are you in? Enlisted or Officer?

ARNG enlisted. I almost put a packet in for warrant but got picked up for promotion and moved to a schoolhouse, so I can finally slow down and not be away from home all the time.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Years ago I briefly dated a chick who's bio said something like she will conduct a full background check on whoever she's dating

Turns out, her ex bf was paying child support behind her back and she had no clue he even had a kid until one day she got something in the mail lol

heard many stories of guys living double life, because of their "job" they would be away for months.. how do you come up with $$$ to pull it off?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

heard many stories of guys living double life, because of their "job" they would be away for months.. how do you come up with $$$ to pull it off?

Tinder Swindler

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara

Tinder Swindler

Who is on Tinder? Didnt I need a fuqbook acc for that? Nah! Never will, never do
Clever gals are using Flightradar24 for tracking their favorite pilots live.

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

heard many stories of guys living double life, because of their "job" they would be away for months.. how do you come up with $$$ to pull it off?

If I was inclined I probably could have done that from 2009 to 2012, I was commuting between Atlanta and LA for about a year and a half. I was damn near living two lives.

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

heard many stories of guys living double life, because of their "job" they would be away for months.. how do you come up with $$$ to pull it off?

I spent some chunk of my young adult years living between Europe & the U.S.
I felt like I was living a double-life. If I frequented back and worth more often, I 100% could have. It's a crazy feeling, admittedly..

The reason I didn't, was, well, you mention $$$

[440i6MT]

Originally Posted by ///d

ARNG enlisted. I almost put a packet in for warrant but got picked up for promotion and moved to a schoolhouse, so I can finally slow down and not be away from home all the time.

I'll be visiting an AFLO recruiting office this upcoming month. I want to put in a concentrated effort towards the process during this upcoming cycle and hopefully land in intelligence.

I mean, with being in my mid-twenties with Master's and driving a manual BMW? The recruiter will be salivating.

[Seismology]

cool theme

[aguywalksintoabar]

King Rudi
loving this thread. Thanks for creating

[aguywalksintoabar]

I'm dating again after my 2nd marriage broke down. Our views didn't jive and she never wanted to go anywhere. Looking back I think she might have been anxious and was refusing to get help. Anyhow, I have been seeing a lady I met at an alumni gathering. It's going well.. about 4 months in.. she gave me some sex checks! They are awesome.. and I am planning on using the doggy and dinner date one this weekend.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by aguywalksintoabar

I'm dating again after my 2nd marriage broke down. Our views didn't jive and she never wanted to go anywhere. Looking back I think she might have been anxious and was refusing to get help. Anyhow, I have been seeing a lady I met at an alumni gathering. It's going well.. about 4 months in.. she gave me some sex checks! They are awesome.. and I am planning on using the doggy and dinner date one this weekend.

Good luck. And welcome Newbie.

[UncleWede]

Story to share from my brother after his b-day dinner last night. C R I N G E!!

So, there is one lady (A) he has dated off/on since HS (52 bday last night) She always seemed head over heels, and would take to him the minute he called. Was convenient, he had a dog, she had dog(s) so he could always leave dog there when he was around and we went fishing.

Turns out about a week ago he was with woman (B), whom he seemed to want to develop a bit more relationship with. While they were in bed, her daughter knocks on door, "Mom, someone's here to see you." Apparently B has had some issues with a guy, so my brother gets dressed real quick to go out with, just in case.

Upon reaching the door, it's A!!! A and B somehow know each other from HS, but not well. A is invited in, and B asks my brother to leave.

Now, apparently the courts are (fake?) texting my brother about claims C is making against him. . .

I told him not to adopt any bunnies.

[///d]

In an attempt to revive this shit show I need your help with the one topic every man fears...


When I left for overseas a year ago March, my gf was starting to put on some pounds, while I was gone she put on a bit more and I was starting to get worried it would continue, but then 4 months before I got home she started the 75Hard challenge, kicked ass and lost something like 25lbs. She was always talking about how she hated the work, but loved the results, and wanted to focus on flattening the tummy. When I got home she looked amazing, but now that the challenge is over she has put all those pounds back on to the point that when she walks by I find myself thinking that those pants or that shirt is not flattering, and how the work she put in during the challenge went right out the window.

How in the hell do I bring this up without getting things thrown at my head?!

She was running everyday during the challenge when it was fall and winter, then she would run a few times a week, now she doesn't run at all. We have a treadmill, we have a gym setup in the garage, and the weather is finally nice enough to be active outside, but I can't seem to get her off the couch.

[Alfisti]

Need more info. How old are you, how old is she, any kids, how long you been together?

[wtwo3]

Originally Posted by ///d

In an attempt to revive this shit show I need your help with the one topic every man fears...


When I left for overseas a year ago March, my gf was starting to put on some pounds, while I was gone she put on a bit more and I was starting to get worried it would continue, but then 4 months before I got home she started the 75Hard challenge, kicked ass and lost something like 25lbs. She was always talking about how she hated the work, but loved the results, and wanted to focus on flattening the tummy. When I got home she looked amazing, but now that the challenge is over she has put all those pounds back on to the point that when she walks by I find myself thinking that those pants or that shirt is not flattering, and how the work she put in during the challenge went right out the window.

How in the hell do I bring this up without getting things thrown at my head?!

She was running everyday during the challenge when it was fall and winter, then she would run a few times a week, now she doesn't run at all. We have a treadmill, we have a gym setup in the garage, and the weather is finally nice enough to be active outside, but I can't seem to get her off the couch.

What motivated her to start the challenge the first time?

[///d]

Originally Posted by Alfisti

Need more info. How old are you, how old is she, any kids, how long you been together?

I'm 38, she is 34, no kids, and a few years

Originally Posted by wtwo3

What motivated her to start the challenge the first time?

Well, her reasoning was to better herself.

I think she did it to be able to tell people she did it lol

She has always stated a fear of hers is to become "fat" as she would say (not just overweight, she says fat). While she is far from what would be considered fat, but the muffin top is definitely there.

[Alfisti]

She sounds pre-disposed to putting on a few and is getting older. She is going to have to work REALLY hard, more on watching what she eats than exercising, to even maintain where she is.

Got news for you, around your age is where shit gets hard, your body starts to betray you.