Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[cmyx6go]

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy’s perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman’s perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy's perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman's perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

Thank you for that. I'm going to take your advice.




P.S. Sorry fellas! Gotta listen to the lady.

[TiMSport]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Thank you for that. I'm going to take your advice.




P.S. Sorry fellas! Gotta listen to the lady.

See, you're whipped already!
I'm kidding.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

HOOOOOO BOY

1- do i have a few stories about insecurities in a relationship, partly reason why i self-destructed mine and lost respect for her a few times over

2- boy do i have some choice words about a person that can suck the energy out of a room… idk if it was depression or other issues (she had a lot. she genuinely tried to be good 80% of the time and i think just couldnt help it the remaining 20%)

i hate texting on my phone (you guys made me feel old already) but at home i PROMISE i will be spilling some beans.

ok so

1- i've been turned insecure because of her insecurity (as not-accepty as it sounds). at first our relationship was solid, or so i thought. 3-4 months in she confesses that she kept a daily eye on my instagram followers/following to check i wasn't following someone new. she told me this on NYE 2021, btw. also some time later said to my face "yea you wouldn't have any hoes or anything". i took that personal as if she was assuming i had no other options. not great to keep someone in a relationship by scaring them i can run away every second, but felt like she was taking me for granted. and whenever i asked for some alone time it'd come back as "do you not love me anymore why dont you want to spend time with me". eventually i started seeing a therapist (he was useless but had 3-4 sessions) to figure this shit out (huge red flag: your partner shouldn't have to resort to a therapist to be able to handle your relationship). eventually i think she got bored of being so close with me all the time, but now i was feeling like she was being sketchy by avoiding me and it just lead to problems. for the most part it's not me putting my foot down and giving her the benefit of the doubt lol

2- "I don't think you have it in you to change your life for the better", she said. I do not have a good answer why I didn't drop her right then and there, honestly. But hearing that really broke me. I'd never heard anyone basically call me a failure before. About three months after that I got a new job that pays me 16% more, got my BMW, moved to a wonderful place, and let her out of my life. I know I have it in me. I don't need to prove that to anyone but myself.

Or the countless times I told her, tell me something nice that happened in your day, anything. Down to a "I saw a cute dog" or "I saw a cool car", "I had a nice meal". It was like she always had something wrong going on in her life and that something was always bad. She admitted that I was right in calling her out on this, in that it's almost a habit for her to have a "rough day". Not too long after she did we broke up, because she was being too negative. Even when breaking up everything was my fault. Did you know I should've given her a courtesy heads-up and broken up with her before Tuesday so she could have asked for a different location at her firm?

Good fucking riddance. I managed to fill myself up with this post hahaha - I know I was no angel either but given how much I know about her family, her family life; comparing that with me and my past relationships, I know I am better off not being in that relationship.


sorry if this is too long! i have a year and a half's worth of content if anyone's interested.

[cmyx6go]

Pickle - insecurity and lack of trust is a major red flag. I hate typing long responses on my phone. Will follow up tomorrow. You did the right thing. Pm me if you want.

[Mein11]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Do the initials Sedan. No disrespect but Mein11 and Tim are giving you a guy’s perspective. Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman’s perspective. If she is special to you, she will be thrilled by this small gesture. Anyone can run to Tiffanys and get something in that blue box last minute. The initials show you put thought and effort into it and both initials in the heart mean something to both you and her and intentions to take it to the US level. Just my 2 cents.

I don't disagree with you because you're wrong, I disagree with you because I'm right.

Joking aside, if it's truly a special relationship, then I see nothing wrong with doing initials. It does show real thought and effort, something all men should do, and arguably something I could have done better with.

[vreihen16]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Wow - what a breath of fresh air! Smells cleaner and fresher in here - the smell of bullshit has faded already!

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[IllSic_Design]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

As someone who grew up riding dirt bikes it makes me not want to even associate with people in that group. Like bro why are you wearing your riding gear in the grocery store?

same, I rode and raced most of my younger years.... he's like the stereotypical douchebag motocross rider

Edit: haha I did report one of his posts just because he was being so annoying

[rebekahb]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Rebekah is the only other female to chime in and I think that was a married woman's perspective.

No, nothing to do with being married. I've just never been that person who would want something to wear with either me and my boyfriends or husbands initial. It seems very elementary to me and I mean that in the nicest way possible! It's not something I would have ever wanted dating someone as an adult. BUT, that's just me and I don't know this girl nor their relationship. I feel like Sedan knows her & what she likes best. He's putting a lot of thought into the gift and that's what matters most.

[TiMSport]

Originally Posted by Onesie

Since you guys did such a good job, why don't you help out further clean up this place? Go to the racing forum, help report some of Rick and MPowerBelgium posts there too… if you go to the Brazil thread you'll see everything from personal insults to racism. Which I thought equaled ban…

Thanks on behalf of race lovers.

Damn, lol. I guess no one reads or monitors those forums.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Pickle - insecurity and lack of trust is a major red flag. I hate typing long responses on my phone. Will follow up tomorrow. You did the right thing. Pm me if you want.

Now I'm intrigued...

But, you're right - she did a great job at hiding hers until she "came clean". I did not, which honestly ultimately led to the downfall. I'm no angel here either I def could've been a better partner; hindsight is 20/20.

I just got done separating her books from mine, I want to ship them out along with her coats but I'm not in a rush...
I started picking them out thinking it'd help me feel better (out of sight out of mind) but I don't think I care enough to do anything with them other than reclaim some space in my closet.

[BMWGirlFL]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Thank you for that. I'm going to take your advice.




P.S. Sorry fellas! Gotta listen to the lady.

Another female in favor of engraving. Beautiful bracelet.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by BMWGirlFL

Another female in favor of engraving. Beautiful bracelet.

Thank you! I appreciate you chiming in with your perspective.

[///d]

I know I'm late to the party, but I saw Rudi mention something about a ban on one of the photo threads and I immediately had to check here to see if it was who I assumed it was, and it was! Week.Made

Originally Posted by TiMSport

Damn, lol. I guess no one reads or monitors those forums.

I dont think anyone actively monitors the F15/F15 forum either. Of all of the mods listed, only one had a recent activity date when I checked a week or so ago.

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Thank you! I appreciate you chiming in with your perspective.

I actually agree with the ladies here, if it's serious enough like it sounds then the engraving is the way to go.

I'm still kind of kicking myself for not getting a necklace thing in Egypt for the girlfriend. I could have engraved her name in hieroglyphs and was supposed to be solid 18k gold, but it was also a bazzar/gift shop and I just couldnt get myself to drop that kind of money on something a gift shop claimed was solid 18k. Oh well I guess.

The video card is choice though

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Onesie

Since you guys did such a good job, why don't you help out further clean up this place? Go to the racing forum, help report some of Rick and MPowerBelgium posts there too… if you go to the Brazil thread you'll see everything from personal insults to racism. Which I thought equaled ban…

Thanks on behalf of race lovers.

If you got something to say, say it to the persons you name instead of hiding it away on another thread spreading lies, you coward.

[Mein11]

Foight foight foight!

[JP10]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

ok so

1- i've been turned insecure because of her insecurity (as not-accepty as it sounds). at first our relationship was solid, or so i thought. 3-4 months in she confesses that she kept a daily eye on my instagram followers/following to check i wasn't following someone new. she told me this on NYE 2021, btw. also some time later said to my face "yea you wouldn't have any hoes or anything". i took that personal as if she was assuming i had no other options. not great to keep someone in a relationship by scaring them i can run away every second, but felt like she was taking me for granted. and whenever i asked for some alone time it'd come back as "do you not love me anymore why dont you want to spend time with me". eventually i started seeing a therapist (he was useless but had 3-4 sessions) to figure this shit out (huge red flag: your partner shouldn't have to resort to a therapist to be able to handle your relationship). eventually i think she got bored of being so close with me all the time, but now i was feeling like she was being sketchy by avoiding me and it just lead to problems. for the most part it's not me putting my foot down and giving her the benefit of the doubt lol

2- "I don't think you have it in you to change your life for the better", she said. I do not have a good answer why I didn't drop her right then and there, honestly. But hearing that really broke me. I'd never heard anyone basically call me a failure before. About three months after that I got a new job that pays me 16% more, got my BMW, moved to a wonderful place, and let her out of my life. I know I have it in me. I don't need to prove that to anyone but myself.

Or the countless times I told her, tell me something nice that happened in your day, anything. Down to a "I saw a cute dog" or "I saw a cool car", "I had a nice meal". It was like she always had something wrong going on in her life and that something was always bad. She admitted that I was right in calling her out on this, in that it's almost a habit for her to have a "rough day". Not too long after she did we broke up, because she was being too negative. Even when breaking up everything was my fault. Did you know I should've given her a courtesy heads-up and broken up with her before Tuesday so she could have asked for a different location at her firm?

Good fucking riddance. I managed to fill myself up with this post hahaha - I know I was no angel either but given how much I know about her family, her family life; comparing that with me and my past relationships, I know I am better off not being in that relationship.


sorry if this is too long! i have a year and a half's worth of content if anyone's interested.

Whole situation sounds like you were stuck. Sometimes it's best to just bail then to persevere through it. Can't believe you went to a therapist over her lol, not bashing mental health or anything to that regard, rather you're young. You're still learning who you are - this is why a lot say don't get married until you're in your late 20s. You shouldn't have to put up with someone that doesn't trust who you are or is constantly trying to change who you are. Early 20s is for figuring all that shit out. Don't stick around people who don't lift you up, and if you can't avoid being around those people (i.e coworkers or someone of that nature) let it in one ear and out the other. Keep on keeping on pickle, you'll figure it out man.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

ok so

1- i've been turned insecure because of her insecurity (as not-accepty as it sounds). at first our relationship was solid, or so i thought. 3-4 months in she confesses that she kept a daily eye on my instagram followers/following to check i wasn't following someone new. she told me this on NYE 2021, btw. also some time later said to my face "yea you wouldn't have any hoes or anything". i took that personal as if she was assuming i had no other options. not great to keep someone in a relationship by scaring them i can run away every second, but felt like she was taking me for granted. and whenever i asked for some alone time it'd come back as "do you not love me anymore why dont you want to spend time with me". eventually i started seeing a therapist (he was useless but had 3-4 sessions) to figure this shit out (huge red flag: your partner shouldn't have to resort to a therapist to be able to handle your relationship). eventually i think she got bored of being so close with me all the time, but now i was feeling like she was being sketchy by avoiding me and it just lead to problems. for the most part it's not me putting my foot down and giving her the benefit of the doubt lol

2- "I don't think you have it in you to change your life for the better", she said. I do not have a good answer why I didn't drop her right then and there, honestly. But hearing that really broke me. I'd never heard anyone basically call me a failure before. About three months after that I got a new job that pays me 16% more, got my BMW, moved to a wonderful place, and let her out of my life. I know I have it in me. I don't need to prove that to anyone but myself.

Or the countless times I told her, tell me something nice that happened in your day, anything. Down to a "I saw a cute dog" or "I saw a cool car", "I had a nice meal". It was like she always had something wrong going on in her life and that something was always bad. She admitted that I was right in calling her out on this, in that it's almost a habit for her to have a "rough day". Not too long after she did we broke up, because she was being too negative. Even when breaking up everything was my fault. Did you know I should've given her a courtesy heads-up and broken up with her before Tuesday so she could have asked for a different location at her firm?

Good fucking riddance. I managed to fill myself up with this post hahaha - I know I was no angel either but given how much I know about her family, her family life; comparing that with me and my past relationships, I know I am better off not being in that relationship.


sorry if this is too long! i have a year and a half's worth of content if anyone's interested.

Damn. Processing. Initial response in my mind is, you don't have it in you to change your life for the better, but you did when you cut her lose. Regardless of other positives in your life, this move alone is an improvement. Just fantastic that it came from this individual.

Get at me if you need to talk my friend.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by M5Rick

If you got something to say, say it to the persons you name instead of hiding it away on another thread spreading lies, you coward.

Rick....come on man. This is not the place. Take it back to the F1 section please. Thank you.

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by King Rudi

Rick....come on man. This is not the place. Take it back to the F1 section please. Thank you.

Gladly King Rudi but the same goes for the Onesie.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by vreihen16

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Can't troll someone who isn't here to read it!

[heitzke]

Finally have a good one to add again haha. Had a really nice second date and a first kiss with a lovely woman here last night. She's very interesting, a little soft spoken, but is a chemist from Australia. Been here in the states just coming on the 2yr mark (what a time to be here lol)

Genuine, good conversation about all kinds of things and thankfully she's very open-minded when it comes to that fact that i'm partnered/poly, etc. She's never really been around it much, but finds it interesting.

One thing i've enjoyed is the low amount of emotional expenditure the relationship takes. She's a terrible texter and hates phones, so we'll exchange 2-3 texts a day MAYBE. She doesn't require mass amounts of attention to know you're interested. We basically just make plans for a few days into the future and then meet up to talk for a few hours.

Very casual and fits in nicely with my existing relationship. It doesn't feel like too much to balance and they're not competing at all.