Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by ///d

I'm always late to the good conversations. Damn timezones.

I have nothing against aftermarket racks as long as they look natural in size and shape. The huge or round as a grapefruit fake tatas that don't move unless they spread apart when you move your arms are not attractive, nor are the hack jobs where one side looks like a potato and the other side is pointing to the ceiling. But at the same time when a gal appears to have been blessed up top and then you find nothing but padding, well, that sucks too.

I'm a tummy guy. I remember when low rise jeans and a flat tummy was the "in" thing and I miss those days. Now its high waist yoga pants or leggings to hide the tummy and lift the ass. I've developed a love/hate relationship with yoga pants and leggings because of how well they hide everything. I get it, gals feel good wearing those things because they lift the booty and flatten the tummy, but that's not actually you. You're only lying to yourself, and if in the bedroom you go from looking like you take care of yourself to looking like you sit on your ass and eat pizza all day, then I'm not interested.

Luckily I have a girl who is on the same page as me when it comes to the importance of physical appearance to remain happy in a relationship. We are both working on ourselves after the past couple years of "stay home" have started to show.

When I was in high school, I used to complain all the time about fake appearances. I was go after girls that were out of my league, secure the date and begin my early day version of my adult self. Girls parents had every reason to want to keep me from their daughters. Anyway, the racks that I had been admiring from afar that looked so spectacular, were anything but once the bra was removed. It was such a disappointment. There was one in particular that appeared to have a huge rack, most guys that I know all wanted to see. I got to see and I feel like that became my first real lesson in life, the ways of the woman. Most guys are simple creatures. Give us a pair of jeans and tee shirt and we're good. Women....not the case at all. It's odd now that I think about it. Most of the extremely attractive women I've dated aren't so attractive naked. The mediocre (and I don't use "mediocre" as derogatory term in the least, more of "low-maintenance" I suppose) women that I have been with, look amazing! Even stranger still, I've seen WAY more attractive women as adults (30-40's range) than I did in my 20's. Seems like girls in their 20's were more concerned about everything else. Older women tend to take better care of themselves; at least in my experiences.

Chris Rock did a bit on Bigger and Blacker explaining that men lie the most but women tell the biggest lies. The bit ends with - Relationships, easy to get into, hard to maintain. Why are they so hard to maintain? Because it’s hard to keep up the lie! ‘Cause you can’t get nobody being you. You got to lie to get somebody. You can’t get nobody looking like you look, acting like you act, sounding like you sound. When you meet somebody for the first time, you’re not meeting them. You’re meeting their representative! That’s right. Who the biggest liars? Women the biggest liars. Look at you, all of you. You’re a fucking liar. You! You’re a liar! You’re all liars. All of you are fucking liars! Masters of the lie, the visual lie. Look at you. You got on heels, you ain’t that tall. You got on makeup, your face don’t look like that. You got a weave, your hair ain’t that long. You got a Wonderbra on, your titties ain’t that big. Everything about you is a lie, and you expect me to tell the truth? Fuck you!

For some reason, this bit has stuck with me for 20 years now.

[F30lolz]

So my son (14 year old/HS freshman/the lil’ bastard that he is ) told my wife and I that a girl, who is a sophomore, thought he was hot. Not sure what she’s smoking but there’s someone for everyone right? Regardless, I guess they’ve been talking and yesterday evening he asked us if this girl and her junior friend (also female) can come over and pick him up and go out for a bit. I figured damn, at 14 I had zero game so I gave him the green light, told him have fun and be ‘safe’.

Came back less than two hours later and they just went to stores (have 360 on his phone) and had fun. We’re heading to the Carolinas for a long weekend this Friday morning as his fall break is from this Friday until the 24th. However, he asked if he can stay behind so he can potentially hang out with her. While I do want him to go just to get out of the house, we have taken him all over the place this year so far so I figured if a chick wants his attention, why not stay?

He knows about the birds and the bees. I told him exactly like this:

You see Peyton, there are birds and there are bees. Birds like to fly around and bees too. However, when the bird drops…..

Ok never mind that lame explanation but he’s a smart kid. He’s taking sophomore classes and an engineering dual credit college course. So a weekend date is imminent. Regarding my cousin who’s been doing yoga on the beach, taking showers and having cooked meals at this girls condo, no new news.

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[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Sara

Guys! He’s a keeper. So many things he did right, even surprised me and made my heart smile. Not to mention when he walked down the stairs in his flight suit this morning and into the kitchen, there’s not a hotter man in my opinion.

After he left I noticed he made the bed, put the pillows in the right spot. So, when do I propose?

Never. Why change what it is now?

[ryan stewart]

Originally Posted by Sara

So, when do I propose?

Best time is when you're already on your knees.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by ryan stewart

Best time is when you're already on your knees.

Ha

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara

Not to mention when he walked down the stairs in his flight suit this morning and into the kitchen, there’s not a hotter man in my opinion.

You know what, I got asked by someone else here about exactly a picture with me into the flight suit

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by Sara

1. I’m no longer on dating apps

How has that been going for you?

Originally Posted by Sara

Guys! He’s a keeper. So many things he did right, even surprised me and made my heart smile.

Care to share what those things are/were?

[Dang3r]

So the final question for me, did you met him just by bumping into him and lets say hey, how about a drink e.g.?
Or did you met him via app and after a lucky swipe you'd determined that this is the golden goal, so to speak?

[Dang3r]

Originally Posted by Sara

We set a date and the rest is history.

Glad you made it and the Gulf Coast is safe now for other pilots again

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Sara

I like it. It's so nice having extra time and not having to respond to/keep up with 20+ conversations. I am tired of repeating my favorite color, my hobbies, etc. Those dating apps can turn into what feels like a part-time job.

PM'd you the details of the remainder.

The small talk is mentally draining. I'm always thinking wtf does my favorite color have to do with if I think we should meet in person.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Sara

... rush to fling them off as soon as they get home.

Then why on earth would we help them find the right size?

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Sara

I knew he was a lawyer the entire time. He asked what profession the guy I'm dating has and when I told him, he informed me that he would tell women that's what he did. Just so weird.

Not only weird, but in some states it’s illegal, if you lie to someone and have sexual relations with them. It’s a form of rape.

[Cyn-BMW]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

Ass and nice legs over huge boobs any day of the week.

I live by the four Bs. Bacon, boobs, bikes and beer! And not necessarily in that order.

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Cyn-BMW

Not only weird, but in some states it's illegal, if you lie to someone and have sexual relations with them. It's a form of rape.

I would love to see the specific wording of any law like that. I know there are laws and case precedent regarding lying about your medical status/disease history and laws prohibiting removing a condom without the other party knowing, but I'm not familiar with any law that says a person can't lie [in general] to obtain sex. We'd all be guilty of that were the case.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

We'd all be guilty if that were the case.

Would we?

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

Would we?

So are you purporting that you've never lied to a woman once……not ever…..in an effort to get physical or keep her as an option? You've never lied about having a girlfriend, your intentions (…e.g…saying you wanted something serious when you truly just wanted to hook up), your profession, where you lived, your whereabouts [when she wanted to see you but you didn't want to see her], how many women you've slept with protected or unprotected, the last time you had sex, etc.?!?! If you've never ever told even a white lie to a woman in your entire life in an effort to achieve sex, you Sir, are a saint. You probably never speed either.

[mikasaeran]

Bad experiences - getting bombarded with messages, men getting aggressive if you haven't replied to them yet, men being horrible if you tell them nicely that you aren't interested, men lying about things

Good experiences- finding someone who likes the same niche thing as you do, clicking on dates, finding a relationship without having to go to bars and clubs to meet someone. I had two good relationships from online dating. But I met my current partner through work

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by Sedan_Clan

So are you purporting that you've never lied to a woman once……not ever…..in an effort to get physical or keep her as an option? You've never lied about having a girlfriend, your intentions (…e.g…saying you wanted something serious when you truly just wanted to hook up), your profession, where you lived, your whereabouts [when she wanted to see you but you didn't want to see her], how many women you've slept with protected or unprotected, the last time you had sex, etc.?!?! If you've never ever told even a white lie to a woman in your entire life in an effort to achieve sex, you Sir, are a saint. You probably never speed either.

I'm no Saint...I just don't lie. What's the point?

Maybe I come across as totally dull to the fairer sex. Maybe I am totally dull. But I'd always prefer to set low expectations and better them, than the other way around.

P.S. Can you give an example of a lie that you've told to further your conquests?

[Sedan_Clan]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

I'm no Saint...I just don't lie. What's the point?

Maybe I come across as totally dull to the fairer sex. Maybe I am totally dull. But I'd always prefer to set low expectations and better them, than the other way around.

I'm in no place to argue whether or not you do. It's hard to believe given we are human, but I'll just take your word(s) at face value. At this stage in my life I share your sentiment, but with that said…..I can't say that I've never ever lied to a woman, especially as a youngin' chasing tail.

[Tambohamilton]

Originally Posted by mikasaeran

men getting aggressive if you haven't replied to them yet, men being horrible if you tell them nicely that you aren't interested, men lying about things

this forum really needs a face-palm emoji

[M5Rick]

Originally Posted by Tambohamilton

I'm no Saint...I just don't lie. What's the point?

Maybe I come across as totally dull to the fairer sex. Maybe I am totally dull. But I'd always prefer to set low expectations and better them, than the other way around.

P.S. Can you give an example of a lie that you've told to further your conquests?

I congratulate you fellow countryman for being one of the honest ones.