The OFFICIAL online dating thread!

[c1pher]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

You are 100% right. Social media & the net have really ruined society. Everyone & their mother thinks their opinion must be heard & that everyone wants to hear it on everything & they are geniuses & they are super awesome & super hot. SMH

That and the participation award that makes people believe that in the grown up it entitles them to big raises, bonuses and promotions just for maybe showing up to work.

[FD3S]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yup. I'm not a model, but I work out everyday to stay in shape and have a decent sense of humor. If you can make a girl laugh, and keep her laughing, the game is yours. Add in a bit of confidence without being an arrogant asshole and the odds are in your favor. And I say game because it really is a game.

People are crazy, you never know what they are looking for. I've seen some of the hottest, well educated chicks dating abusive fat guys with no job because they need validation and don't want to be alone.

I think online dating makes things 100% harder because it is all taking people at face value. I've met chicks online that were so-so in their pictures, but the messages seemed pretty funny. Ended up meeting and they were hotter in person and the personality was icing on the cake.

Also never try to use "devices" to get a girl, such as money, an M3, a boat, talking constantly about how well you are doing in your career, etc. Those will never work, and most women see right through it. Some of the most attractive women I've dated I met when I was broke in college with nothing but my personality to attract them. Most of them are attracted more to the connection you have with the thing than the thing itself. I'll use a boat for example. They don't really care that you have a boat, it's that you are a fun guy who likes going out and doing things, being on the water, living life, etc.

When a friend of mine first bought his BMW before I even knew anything about them, I jokingly asked him if it was a chick magnet. He said don't even get me started, I have more guys coming up to ask me about my car than anything else.

Well said sir!

I have been on online dating many years since the glorious days of IRC. Those days that you only could chat with people. Well I have many horror stories and when I say horror I mean it, however I have also met very good and hot girls.

The best rule I have discovered is the 5 minute first date. You meet her and if you like her you arrange a second meeting. If no you split as strangers who had a quick chat.

By the way I wish I could see a similar topic with the women participating in it. It would be very interesting...

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by FD3S

Well said sir!

I have been on online dating many years since the glorious days of IRC. Those days that you only could chat with people. Well I have many horror stories and when I say horror I mean it, however I have also met very good and hot girls.

The best rule I have discovered is the 5 minute first date. You meet her and if you like her you arrange a second meeting. If no you split as strangers who had a quick chat.

By the way I wish I could see a similar topic with the women participating in it. It would be very interesting...

We did have the same topic in the past with girls participating.

I have the same complaint as most of you. People just show up looking different from their pics. Guys who claim to be fit but then show up with a beer gut... it's not the extra weight I care about, it's the deception that's annoying.

[jgoens]

Originally Posted by bimmette

We did have the same topic in the past with girls participating.

I have the same complaint as most of you. People just show up looking different from their pics. Guys who claim to be fit but then show up with a beer gut... it's not the extra weight I care about, it's the deception that's annoying.

Hey Tara, good to see you back in the OT..haven't seen you around here in awhile.

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by jgoens

Hey Tara, good to see you back in the OT..haven't seen you around here in awhile.

I lurk once in awhile

[jgoens]

Originally Posted by bimmette

I lurk once in awhile

You probably miss those skunk days...haha..are you sure you don't want to jump into the cesspool shark tank political threads we have here?

[bimmette]

Originally Posted by jgoens

You probably miss those skunk days...haha..are you sure you don't want to jump into the cesspool shark tank political threads we have here?

Yup, that's what turned me off of OT for awhile.

[jgoens]

Originally Posted by bimmette

Yup, that's what turned me off of OT for awhile.

I understand...hope your back...missed seeing you around these parts.

[Never_Enough]

Exchanged numbers with a girl yesterday & natural progression is to setup a real life date, no?

So I go to do that & she starts flipping out (via text) about too soon or whatever & people use the site for sex, selling drugs, etc...then she says she's not looking for a bf. I said "We haven't even met yet, I don't want to be your bf lol" She then blocks me WTF?!

[upstatedoc]

My experience has been most women want to chat/text, even talk on the phone for a bit before they would want to go out on a date. They want to make sure you're not an ax murderer. Are you an axe murderer?

[///M Power-Belgium]

Originally Posted by jgoens

I understand...hope your back...missed seeing you around these parts.

Leg humper !

[aozer]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

My experience has been most women want to chat/text, even talk on the phone for a bit before they would want to go out on a date. They want to make sure you're not an ax murderer. Are you an axe murderer?

that is the complete opposite of my experience. i usually try to get the number and set up the date within 10-15 messages. most girls who aren't down by then are just trying to chat/waste time and have no real intentions of meeting.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by aozer

that is the complete opposite of my experience. i usually try to get the number and set up the date within 10-15 messages. most girls who aren't down by then are just trying to chat/waste time and have no real intentions of meeting.

+1

I just tell them right away that I'm an axe murderer and they are usually fine with it.

[upstatedoc]

I don't know how old you guys are but the women that I am meeting are probably a little older and more cautious

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

I don't know how old you guys are but the women that I am meeting are probably a little older and more cautious

I'm 27, and honestly I can't really say there is much of a difference between the women in their mid 20s and the ones in their early 30s. Some have no clue what they want, some do. Their personality seems to be more of a factor than age. A lot of people tell me I act mature for my age. Maybe that has something to do with it?

I don't usually take bullshit from people. If there is any sign of it I move on, not worth my time. Being cautious is one thing, and I completely get that, but constant mixed messages is another.

Guys have to be mindful too. You never know who is really on the other end of the conversation. On the news a few months ago a guy was robbed and assaulted when he went to meet someone from an online dating site. He showed up, met the girl, and she said she needed to grab her wallet from inside her house and invited him inside. When he went inside two other men jumped him, robbed him, and assaulted him.

[upstatedoc]

So I've got a couple decades on you.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by aozer

that is the complete opposite of my experience. i usually try to get the number and set up the date within 10-15 messages. most girls who aren't down by then are just trying to chat/waste time and have no real intentions of meeting.

I get the same thing as upstatedoc does, but I also do what you do with get things lined up sooner rather than later. That does weed out the time wasters.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

I don't know how old you guys are but the women that I am meeting are probably a little older and more cautious

I'm on the wrong side of 35 & I have met & talked to women from early 20s to 50s. Age has no bearing on who will or will not waste my time as all ages do it.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I'm 27, and honestly I can't really say there is much of a difference between the women in their mid 20s and the ones in their early 30s. Some have no clue what they want, some do. Their personality seems to be more of a factor than age. A lot of people tell me I act mature for my age. Maybe that has something to do with it?

I don't usually take bullshit from people. If there is any sign of it I move on, not worth my time. Being cautious is one thing, and I completely get that, but constant mixed messages is another.

Guys have to be mindful too. You never know who is really on the other end of the conversation. On the news a few months ago a guy was robbed and assaulted when he went to meet someone from an online dating site. He showed up, met the girl, and she said she needed to grab her wallet from inside her house and invited him inside. When he went inside two other men jumped him, robbed him, and assaulted him.

Right there w/you on no bs. Any sign of bs & I am out.

Wow on the news guy, but I carry so yea, wrong guy.

[aozer]

Originally Posted by Never_Enough

I get the same thing as upstatedoc does, but I also do what you do with get things lined up sooner rather than later. That does weed out the time wasters.

I can understand that with women in their mid 30's and up but for women in their 20's you def need to change your game if it takes any longer.

im 28 but usually only get interest from girls around 22-24. idk why, maybe because I look young, but women my age don't seem to be interested even tho I'm well educated with a good career and all that boring shit I thought older women were supposed to care about. it sucks because the younger girls are usually only into casual bullshit and I'm am the point where I want to settle down and meet a good girl.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by aozer

I can understand that with women in their mid 30's and up but for women in their 20's you def need to change your game if it takes any longer.

im 28 but usually only get interest from girls around 22-24. idk why, maybe because I look young, but women my age don't seem to be interested even tho I'm well educated with a good career and all that boring shit I thought older women were supposed to care about. it sucks because the younger girls are usually only into casual bullshit and I'm am the point where I want to settle down and meet a good girl.

If any of them, regardless of age, get wishy washy or make excuses etc, I cut it & move on. Too many women out there. It's a numbers game for us. 10 more for every 1 that wants to get validated.

[litxus]

Well, pretty sure for all these dating apps (tinder, pof) you need to be close to a major city. I live in burbs, around 15 miles from Chicago, and my experience with these apps was horrible

First you get hit on by loads of scams or chicks you never go out with, then once you actually have an ok at best match and they turn out to be time wasters. I got so tired of it, that I lost patience and started pushing most to meet up asap, which didn't really work out. I deleted all online dating apps about a year ago and actually met way more outside of online dating. That is meeting in events, through friends, or anything else I enjoy doing.

I know tinder is a swiping game (swipe all they say), but not sure about POF lately?