Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

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I live in a pretty liberal state, and with COVID online dating has been a NIGHTMARE. I'm chatting with a few different girls from the apps, but none of them want to meet up yet. Our state has just started with a few places opening, but most stuff is still closed or partially closed. It's nice chatting with people, but after a while it's like how long is this going to go on...

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by dinonz

I'm just trying to play it cool and see what happens. Not getting my hopes up.

This is a golden opportunity dude!

Have her come over and detail one of your cars in the afternoon (preferably a Friday or Saturday) and when she's wrapping up for the day, offer her a drink and a chance to take a break. There's you're in..

Even if it doesn't lead to anything sexual, at least you get to gauge her intentions and move on if it doesn't feel right.

Also, forgot about the ex. She's probably not over him entirely, but that's not really your problem. Unless you plan on marrying this girl the bs ex talk shouldn't worry you.

Originally Posted by dinonz

Sorry - had to crop her head out for privacy. These are her Lambo jeans.

It's now a bit uncertain as it seems she might have unfinished business with her ex and I don't want to get involved in that mess.

Edit:

Hang on a minute, are you saying she went out and bought a pair of "lambo jeans" specifically to ride around in your car with you?

She wants the pipe bro.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

This is a golden opportunity dude!

Have her come over and detail one of your cars in the afternoon (preferably a Friday or Saturday) and when she's wrapping up for the day, offer her a drink and a chance to take a break. Netflix and chill.Then you're in..

Even if it doesn't lead to anything sexual, at least you get to gauge her intentions and move on if it doesn't feel right.

Also, forgot about the ex. She's probably not over him entirely, but that's not really your problem. Unless you plan on marrying this girl the bs ex talk shouldn't worry you.

Updated a detail...

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Update a detail...

How about Disney plus and thrust?

I believe they just put the new lion king up too.

Ask her if she likes lion king dinonz

[TrevorM3]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

This is a golden opportunity dude!

Have her come over and detail one of your cars in the afternoon (preferably a Friday or Saturday) and when she's wrapping up for the day, offer her a drink and a chance to take a break. There's you're in..

Even if it doesn't lead to anything sexual, at least you get to gauge her intentions and move on if it doesn't feel right.

Also, forgot about the ex. She's probably not over him entirely, but that's not really your problem. Unless you plan on marrying this girl the bs ex talk shouldn't worry you.



Edit:

Hang on a minute, are you saying she went out and bought a pair of "lambo jeans" specifically to ride around in your car with you?

She wants the pipe bro.

she wants to ride in the lamb, and then him for sure.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

How about Disney plus and thrust?

I believe they just put the new lion king up too.

Ask her if she likes lion king dinonz

[Turkish Pickle]

dinonz first off i wanted to call you bro but learning youre 50 hope you don't mind someone your kid's age calling you bro.

secondly: no detailer EVER buys specific pants to detail someone else's car. clearly you're a smart guy, put 2 and 2 together and show her your big deck!

[Turkish Pickle]

also - rejections. it happens, the guys that know me that doesnt phase me really.

BUT this past friday something extremely weird happened. im at the bar, and had a girl introduce herself to me and then to her friends. we're talking etc having a fun time, but bars closing in 30 mins. so i tell her hey we're probably going to have afties at my place if you wanted to come. she says yea maybe so im like dope let me get your number.

she says she doesn't give her number to strangers.

kinda got the message here but i'm a facetious pos so i ask for her snap, to which she says she doesn't use it.

so i told her my address and said i'll see you if i see you. she puts out her hand like a handshake and goes "thanks but i'm not interested" and i'm baffled. not bc she turned me down, but the way she did it.

on one hand i appreciate the honesty but on the other im super lost with the handshake. did she think this was a career fair? should i have added her on linkedin?

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

dinonz first off i wanted to call you bro but learning youre 50 hope you don't mind someone your kid's age calling you bro.

secondly: no detailer EVER buys specific pants to detail someone else's car. clearly you're a smart guy, put 2 and 2 together and show her your big deck!

Lol, I second this! I call everyone "bro" regardless of age. I've always tried to put myself in their shoes as I know when I'm 50 I wouldn't want kids calling me "sir" all the time. I mean, we're all just a bunch of dudes at the end of the day anyway, right? Haha.

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

also - rejections. it happens, the guys that know me that doesnt phase me really.

BUT this past friday something extremely weird happened. im at the bar, and had a girl introduce herself to me and then to her friends. we're talking etc having a fun time, but bars closing in 30 mins. so i tell her hey we're probably going to have afties at my place if you wanted to come. she says yea maybe so im like dope let me get your number.

she says she doesn't give her number to strangers.

kinda got the message here but i'm a facetious pos so i ask for her snap, to which she says she doesn't use it.

so i told her my address and said i'll see you if i see you. she puts out her hand like a handshake and goes "thanks but i'm not interested" and i'm baffled. not bc she turned me down, but the way she did it.

on one hand i appreciate the honesty but on the other im super lost with the handshake. did she think this was a career fair? should i have added her on linkedin?

R.I.P

Should have called it quits after the number rejection my guy. You know this.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Lol, I second this! I call everyone "bro" regardless of age. I've always tried to put myself in their shoes as I know when I'm 50 I wouldn't want kids calling me "sir" all the time. I mean, we're all just a bunch of dudes at the end of the day anyway, right? Haha.




R.I.P

Should have called it quits after the number rejection my guy. You know this.

Well yeah I can't argue with that, but I also love pushing my luck.
If she doesn't give her number that's done right then and there but hey ask and you'll never know

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Hang on a minute, are you saying she went out and bought a pair of "lambo jeans" specifically to ride around in your car with you?

She wants the pipe bro.

Yes - she did - but fuck she's hard to read. I know she's had a tough life and relies on nobody but herself, but she's just impossible to get a gauge on. Yes - she bought jeans specifically to ride in my Lamborghinis as one has white leather, and one cream, and I didn't want jeans in them. But she's here tonight in my garage working on her own car rather than work at home, I have her dog beside me, and she will head home later tonight when she's finished.

Maybe when the pool/hot tub is finished she will stay (she's already bought a new bikini to wear in my pool that left my tongue around my shoes) but I don't know - it's like she's hardened against getting attached to anyone because of something in the past.

It's like she talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk - so I should either run, or just bide my time and claim the prize. And given the details my cars very well, it will be the latter. Most likely I will bide my time, and nothing will happen.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

How about Disney plus and thrust?

I believe they just put the new lion king up too.

Ask her if she likes lion king dinonz

She doesn't watch movies. Suffers from narcolepsy, and just falls asleep during them.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Yes - she did - but fuck she's hard to read. I know she's had a tough life and relies on nobody but herself, but she's just impossible to get a gauge on. Yes - she bought jeans specifically to ride in my Lamborghinis as one has white leather, and one cream, and I didn't want jeans in them. But she's here tonight in my garage working on her own car rather than work at home, I have her dog beside me, and she will head home later tonight when she's finished.

Maybe when the pool/hot tub is finished she will stay (she's already bought a new bikini to wear in my pool that left my tongue around my shoes) but I don't know - it's like she's hardened against getting attached to anyone because of something in the past.

It's like she talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk - so I should either run, or just bide my time and claim the prize. And given the details my cars very well, it will be the latter. Most likely I will bide my time, and nothing will happen.

BUDDY
okay
okay

i think its simple: you're thinking too much about it

but holy shit you're one lucky guy if you have a chick who prefers working on your car than hers at your place with her dog

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

dinonz first off i wanted to call you bro but learning youre 50 hope you don't mind someone your kid's age calling you bro.

secondly: no detailer EVER buys specific pants to detail someone else's car. clearly you're a smart guy, put 2 and 2 together and show her your big deck!

Thanks bro - you're cool! I don't have childerbeasts anyway

It's weird - she's young, but street smart and been on her own since about 15. She's very mature for her age and background, relies on nobody but herself, and is very respectful (I mentioned one night that I bought new trousers so as not to stain the seats - she bought hers herself obviously expecting to be in the cars one day, which is not unreasonable for a detailer).

I just can't work her out - she's close, but distant. Maybe it's a case of just slowly earning her trust - she doesn't seem to trust people. Just needs time to work out I'm for real.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

also - rejections. it happens, the guys that know me that doesnt phase me really.

BUT this past friday something extremely weird happened. im at the bar, and had a girl introduce herself to me and then to her friends. we're talking etc having a fun time, but bars closing in 30 mins. so i tell her hey we're probably going to have afties at my place if you wanted to come. she says yea maybe so im like dope let me get your number.

she says she doesn't give her number to strangers.

kinda got the message here but i'm a facetious pos so i ask for her snap, to which she says she doesn't use it.

so i told her my address and said i'll see you if i see you. she puts out her hand like a handshake and goes "thanks but i'm not interested" and i'm baffled. not bc she turned me down, but the way she did it.

on one hand i appreciate the honesty but on the other im super lost with the handshake. did she think this was a career fair? should i have added her on linkedin?

Perhaps she was a wing-woman hoping you would latch on to one of her ugly friends?

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Thanks bro - you're cool! I don't have childerbeasts anyway

It's weird - she's young, but street smart and been on her own since about 15. She's very mature for her age and background, relies on nobody but herself, and is very respectful (I mentioned one night that I bought new trousers so as not to stain the seats - she bought hers herself obviously expecting to be in the cars one day, which is not unreasonable for a detailer).

I just can't work her out - she's close, but distant. Maybe it's a case of just slowly earning her trust - she doesn't seem to trust people. Just needs time to work out I'm for real.

I have a friend that moved to Austin two weeks back for work, i might need to drive down and get my car detailed

But honestly, do you really think a detailer would send you pics of the pants she bought to detail your cars? (disregard the fact that most detailers are men when answering)

Could very well be my lizard brain jumping to conclusions, too, but the pants and the bikini - she's interested. But, if she's got street smarts and "relies on nobody but herself" you might have a window that gets tighter with every day.

Plus what's the worst that can happen? I'm sure she's not the only detailer in all of Texas. Worst case you get rejected and she never comes back so you call another detailer

Originally Posted by dinonz

Perhaps she was a wing-woman hoping you would latch on to one of her ugly friends?

Honestly - fairly plausible. One of her friends was from my major too and even though she's only a year older than me she didn't recognize me and i didn't recognize her, so i just assumed she was just anti social. Plus this girl was cuter and more interesting to talk to

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Yes - she did - but fuck she's hard to read. I know she's had a tough life and relies on nobody but herself, but she's just impossible to get a gauge on. Yes - she bought jeans specifically to ride in my Lamborghinis as one has white leather, and one cream, and I didn't want jeans in them. But she's here tonight in my garage working on her own car rather than work at home, I have her dog beside me, and she will head home later tonight when she's finished.

Maybe when the pool/hot tub is finished she will stay (she's already bought a new bikini to wear in my pool that left my tongue around my shoes) but I don't know - it's like she's hardened against getting attached to anyone because of something in the past.

It's like she talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk - so I should either run, or just bide my time and claim the prize. And given the details my cars very well, it will be the latter. Most likely I will bide my time, and nothing will happen.

I think you should make a move, or find a new detailer. If you do the former, you're going to have to find a new one anyway.

I have a feeling she likes you more than you think, but sounds like you're getting cold feet.

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

I have a friend that moved to Austin two weeks back for work, i might need to drive down and get my car detailed

But honestly, do you really think a detailer would send you pics of the pants she bought to detail your cars? (disregard the fact that most detailers are men when answering)

Could very well be my lizard brain jumping to conclusions, too, but the pants and the bikini - she's interested. But, if she's got street smarts and "relies on nobody but herself" you might have a window that gets tighter with every day.

Plus what's the worst that can happen? I'm sure she's not the only detailer in all of Texas. Worst case you get rejected and she never comes back so you call another detailer

Honestly - fairly plausible. One of her friends was from my major too and even though she's only a year older than me she didn't recognize me and i didn't recognize her, so i just assumed she was just anti social. Plus this girl was cuter and more interesting to talk to

Oh - I'm already all in. I just need to get her around to that way of thinking. She texts that she's missing me - yet all I get is a hug when she arrives, and it feels like the hug you'd give a teacher or weird aunt.

It's like she's trying to keep me at an exact distance - not to close, but don't go anywhere... :/

And isn't it always like that? The one you're interested in - isn't into you? Or is that just me

[dinonz]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

I think you should make a move, or find a new detailer. If you do the former, you're going to have to find a new one anyway.

I have a feeling she likes you more than you think, but sounds like you're getting cold feet.

I've already told her how I feel - she's not changed either way.

Confusing as fuck :/

And no - I don't have cold feet. I just cannot get a read on her, and cannot get any sense of direction.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Yes - she did - but fuck she's hard to read. I know she's had a tough life and relies on nobody but herself, but she's just impossible to get a gauge on. Yes - she bought jeans specifically to ride in my Lamborghinis as one has white leather, and one cream, and I didn't want jeans in them. But she's here tonight in my garage working on her own car rather than work at home, I have her dog beside me, and she will head home later tonight when she's finished.

Maybe when the pool/hot tub is finished she will stay (she's already bought a new bikini to wear in my pool that left my tongue around my shoes) but I don't know - it's like she's hardened against getting attached to anyone because of something in the past.

It's like she talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk - so I should either run, or just bide my time and claim the prize. And given the details my cars very well, it will be the latter. Most likely I will bide my time, and nothing will happen.

She's sounds like she's been "burned" a couple of times....and this is her way of feeling things out. Just play it down and act like it's business as normal and let her do her thing. She's testing you. Basically looking for an excuse as to why she shouldn't become attached too quickly. They can't help it if indeed that is what is going on.

So just chill out and let things go where they go. If she "spooks"...it's done. You can bet she is going to be looking for every reason not to want to let her guard down...and that takes time.

My wife is as independent as they come......a lot would consider her unapproachable. My problem was I didn't give a shit whether she was around or not....like if we were supposed to meet..and she had something come up.

I would be like okay and then not give it another thought until after she had already called me 3X trying to get in touch days later.

Her thinking of not being in control of her feelings scared her more than anything else.

[BimBimM2]

Originally Posted by dinonz

Oh - I'm already all in. I just need to get her around to that way of thinking. She texts that she's missing me - yet all I get is a hug when she arrives, and it feels like the hug you'd give a teacher or weird aunt.

It's like she's trying to keep me at an exact distance - not to close, but don't go anywhere... :/

And isn't it always like that? The one you're interested in - isn't into you? Or is that just me

Hey Dinonz, I have been following your story here. If I were you, I'd let this one go. She is either a little damaged, or a little numb... or worse yet, both.

She is into you, till she finds a new distraction. This woman lacks intensity and likely is just restless. You are an "interesting person" to her, but nothing more.

In the end, she won't be worth the trouble.

But above all, I don't get why you are "all in" when you can't even read her.

BimBim's Maxim: if she wants you, she will come to you.

[BimBimM2]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

She's sounds like she's been "burned" a couple of times....and this is her way of feeling things out. Just play it down and act like it's business as normal and let her do her thing. She's testing you. Basically looking for an excuse as to why she shouldn't become attached too quickly. They can't help it if indeed that is what is going on.

So just chill out and let things go where they go. If she "spooks"...it's done. You can bet she is going to be looking for every reason not to want to let her guard down...and that takes time.

My wife is as independent as they come......a lot would consider her unapproachable. My problem was I didn't give a shit whether she was around or not....like if we were supposed to meet..and she had something come up.

I would be like okay and then not give it another thought until after she had already called me 3X trying to get in touch days later.

Her thinking of not being in control of her feelings scared her more than anything else.

Genuine curiosity, is she still like that? Doesn't it get tiring?