Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Germanauto]

More and more of my boys from grad school are getting into relationships. Just a year ago we were getting plastered at the bars and now everybody's getting tied up. I think the writing's on the wall, gotta start taking this stuff seriously.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

More and more of my boys from grad school are getting into relationships. Just a year ago we were getting plastered at the bars and now everybody's getting tied up. I think the writing's on the wall, gotta start taking this stuff seriously.

Don't rush it my man. I have a few friends who are married now and some of them are going through some shit that makes me happy to be single. I too would like to be in a relationship and eventually married, but with what they are going through I want to be fairly certain it is with the right person first.

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Don't rush it my man. I have a few friends who are married now and some of them are going through some shit that makes me happy to be single. I too would like to be in a relationship and eventually married, but with what they are going through I want to be fairly certain it is with the right person first.

I don't know man; I also know these types and I think that's a dangerous mentality to have. It's purely speculative and comes from personal experience and a genuine interest in psychology, but I'd wager against staying single for very long and having the "don't rush it" mentality. As we have discussed in this thread prior, I truly believe momentum and staying active in the dating scene is extremely important in finding the "one" and staying sharp. I'm not even talking about 'spitting game' of whatever bullshit dating coach authors regurgitate, but rather just staying active and putting in effort.

Mind you, I'm a complete moron when it comes to dating, so please take that with a grain of salt. I was in a 3 year relationship right out of HS and broke it off last year, so this is all new to me.

Not to mention the great tax incentives you're eligible for if married in this country, I'm eager to get married soon solely for this. Is that bad?

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

I don't know man; I also know these types and I think that's a dangerous mentality to have. It's purely speculative and comes from personal experience and a genuine interest in psychology, but I'd wager against staying single for very long and having the "don't rush it" mentality. As we have discussed in this thread prior, I truly believe momentum and staying active in the dating scene is extremely important in finding the "one" and staying sharp. I'm not even talking about 'spitting game' of whatever bullshit dating coach authors regurgitate, but rather just staying active and putting in effort.

Mind you, I'm a complete moron when it comes to dating, so please take that with a grain of salt. I was in a 3 year relationship right out of HS and broke it off last year, so this is all new to me.

Not to mention the great tax incentives you're eligible for if married in this country, I'm eager to get married soon solely for this. Is that bad?

The tax benefits won't be of much use if you wake up to someone you'll regret daily.

"Marriage is grand. Divorce is 100 grand"

While I agree to stay active dating, I wouldn't rush marriage. No matter how bad you want to get married.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by premier3is

The tax benefits won't be of much use if you wake up to someone you'll regret daily.

"Marriage is grand. Divorce is 100 grand"

While I agree to stay active dating, I wouldn't rush marriage. No matter how bad you want to get married.

Yeah this was my point. I'm not saying forget dating altogether (how will you meet "the one" in the first place?), but I'd say probably half of my married friends got married way too soon, like within a year of dating. It's interesting because that number also aligns with the divorce percentage. Being alone sucks, but don't get into a relationship just to be in one.

[Turkish Pickle]

took me 2 months and 3 days but i did it again

moving to the suburbs really did the trick

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by premier3is

The tax benefits won't be of much use if you wake up to someone you'll regret daily.

"Marriage is grand. Divorce is 100 grand"

While I agree to stay active dating, I wouldn't rush marriage. No matter how bad you want to get married.

Is it naive to think: 'I'm confident enough in my judge of character this won't ever happen to me?'

I don't know, I've always been of the mindset to just tough things out and make it work. I agree with you though, and I am not condoning rushing into marriage, but at some point, you got to take the risk. Plus, wouldn't you rather take that risk young when both parties are malleable? I don’t know about you, but it appears the older people get the sterner they are in their ways.

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

took me 2 months and 3 days but i did it again

moving to the suburbs really did the trick

Deets.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Is it naive to think: 'I'm confident enough in my judge of character this won't ever happen to me?'

I don't know, I've always been of the mindset to just tough things out and make it work. I agree with you though, and I am not condoning rushing into marriage, but at some point, you got to take the risk. Plus, wouldn't you rather take that risk young when both parties are malleable? I don’t know about you, but it appears the older people get the sterner they are in their ways.



Deets.

Yes, yes it is.

The thing is... marriage is 50/50. You could be the person willing to work things out, the malleable one, the good judge of character, etc, and if the other person just decides they want out, well there goes half your stuff and lots of money.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Is it naive to think: 'I'm confident enough in my judge of character this won't ever happen to me?'

I don't know, I've always been of the mindset to just tough things out and make it work. I agree with you though, and I am not condoning rushing into marriage, but at some point, you got to take the risk. Plus, wouldn't you rather take that risk young when both parties are malleable? I don’t know about you, but it appears the older people get the sterner they are in their ways.

Deets.

Very naive lol. Don't get too confident in yourself as you never know about the other person. You may be able to work shit out, but what if she says no? Like mentioned above earlier, marriage is 50/50.

I know you mentioned you just broke off a 3 year relationship which started right after high school, so I'll guess you're around 21-22. If so, you'll probably learn through life experience why we are saying it's naive. No offense to you of course.

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Very naive lol. Don't get too confident in yourself as you never know about the other person. You may be able to work shit out, but what if she says no? Like mentioned above earlier, marriage is 50/50.

I know you mentioned you just broke off a 3 year relationship which started right after high school, so I'll guess you're around 21-22. If so, you'll probably learn through life experience why we are saying it's naive. No offense to you of course.

Lol, I saw that one coming.

I agree with what you're saying here, but I still don't think it's a good mentality to have for singles. My folks are very pushy when it comes to relationships, so I'm sure that has some influence on my thought process currently.

It's funny, I have an uncle who is 55 and single (never been married) and my parents always resort to using him as an example for what 'could happen' if I don't get my butt in gear. I always think to myself, he's really not the best example to use because the dude is loaded and lives a pretty great life from what I can tell. I'm sure he has his lonely days, but makes you wonder.

Yes, I'm 22 and feel like I'm getting old.

[213e90n51]

Originally Posted by Germanauto

More and more of my boys from grad school are getting into relationships. Just a year ago we were getting plastered at the bars and now everybody's getting tied up. I think the writing's on the wall, gotta start taking this stuff seriously.

Cuz they want a girl yunno to wash back or eat nice dinners like filet migon with them or expensive french food

[213e90n51]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Lol, I saw that one coming.

I agree with what you're saying here, but I still don't think it's a good mentality to have for singles. My folks are very pushy when it comes to relationships, so I'm sure that has some influence on my thought process currently.

It's funny, I have an uncle who is 55 and single (never been married) and my parents always resort to using him as an example for what 'could happen' if I don't get my butt in gear. I always think to myself, he's really not the best example to use because the dude is loaded and lives a pretty great life from what I can tell. I'm sure he has his lonely days, but makes you wonder.

Yes, I'm 22 and feel like I'm getting old.

Im 20 and girls to seem to like me more cuz my body is celebrated and my shoulder is nicer now. It helps when u workout and look a bit mean but dont look to mean. More like straight face. On youtube there is videos and girls like men with straight face. Also nice jeans

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by 213e90n51

Im 20 and girls to seem to like me more cuz my body is celebrated and my shoulder is nicer now. It helps when u workout and look a bit mean but dont look to mean. More like straight face. On youtube there is videos and girls like men with straight face. Also nice jeans

Very cool. I agree, staying in shape and being fashionable are important. Although, I could probably use some work in the clothing department - LOL.

[213e90n51]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Very cool. I agree, staying in shape and being fashionable are important. Although, I could probably use some work in the clothing department - LOL.

The face tho yunno. Why do u thibk in movies. The hot guy or charecter isnt smiling or laughing? Im telling you its te face game. Serious and kinda mean but not to stern. Look at 007 front of dvds for example. Is he laughing at you?

[Jordan's World]

Originally Posted by 213e90n51

The face tho yunno. Why do u thibk in movies. The hot guy or charecter isnt smiling or laughing? Im telling you its te face game. Serious and kinda mean but not to stern. Look at 007 front of dvds for example. Is he laughing at you?

Lol, I'm not so sure on the 'tough guy' facial expressions my friend. Honestly, I find it best to just be genuine and let the rest fall into place. It's as if woman can sense your bullshit when you're trying too hard - IMO.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Lol, I'm not so sure on the 'tough guy' facial expressions my friend. Honestly, I find it best to just be genuine and let the rest fall into place. It's as if woman can sense your bullshit when you're trying too hard - IMO.

Bro he's fuckin with you lol. Didn't you notice he's trolling on other posts too? Lmao.

That dude is buggin out

[Dang3r]

Y'all know what really sucks? When you're mid 50ths like me, most of my friends are almost the second or third time married again or divorced for the x-time and in between the ex-wifes of GF's which have more or less good relationships to each other and kept them up, even the relation is gone though.
Attenting a party with such circumstances is like skipping through a minefield, no matter which person you are talking with, any bet that this would hurt another.

[King Rudi]

Do not play the stern, tough guy act. Tough guys and genuine people in general don't have to act. Their confidence exudes from them and is noticed. If you try to fake the funk, you're going to have a bad time. Making women feel comfortable around you is as simple as making them laugh. Trying to be a hard ass isn't going to make this happen.

Again, gentlemen, just be yourself. You could potentially meet the perfect woman (for you) but let her slip away trying to be something your not. It is possible that we try to hard ya know.

[bucketfoot]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Do not play the stern, tough guy act. Tough guys and genuine people in general don't have to act. Their confidence exudes from them and is noticed. If you try to fake the funk, you're going to have a bad time. Making women feel comfortable around you is as simple as making them laugh. Trying to be a hard ass isn't going to make this happen.

Again, gentlemen, just be yourself. You could potentially meet the perfect woman (for you) but let her slip away trying to be something your not. It is possible that we try to hard ya know.

Adding to this, not being yourself is the best way to guarantee a relationship will not last. An act can only last so long, and if that is who they think you are, you are screwed when the finally get to know the real you!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Jordan's World

Is it naive to think: 'I'm confident enough in my judge of character this won't ever happen to me?'

I don't know, I've always been of the mindset to just tough things out and make it work. I agree with you though, and I am not condoning rushing into marriage, but at some point, you got to take the risk. Plus, wouldn't you rather take that risk young when both parties are malleable? I don’t know about you, but it appears the older people get the sterner they are in their ways.

Deets.

Nothing interesting tbh, just a tinder hook up. Most of my hit list is back home already so I was generally met with "yeah but mom and dad are home"

I'm staying at an AirBnB, rented out the basement of a family so I also don't want to bring girls around

[rebekahb]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Bro he's fuckin with you lol. Didn't you notice he's trolling on other posts too? Lmao.

That dude is buggin out

Originally Posted by premier3is

[COLOR="BLACK"]Bro he's fuckin with you lol. Didn't you notice he's trolling on other posts too? Lmao.

That dude is buggin out [/COLOR]

Apparently, he missed the post of his sandal tan feet with shit all over his floor

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by rebekahb

Apparently, he missed the post of his sandal tan feet with shit all over his floor

This post is famous I tell you! it is the one post on here that I've seen that has been discussed in multiple other threads. Funny how some hobbit feet became famous in BP OT section. His feet are almost as famous around here as the prancersize videos.