Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[someguywithanm3]

Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.

I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened.

What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all.

What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally?

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Kelse92

Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??

Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.

Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.

idk we clearly are at different points of our lives and im a guy so definitely different decision making processes
but - old guy is how old? if you're 27 and he's well past his 35 then idk that just might be weird. I most certainly wouldn't want to get involved in a relationship with someone who's more than 6-7 years older than I am.

And as someone else said, there are other guys lol if you have to ask to randos off a car forum about a potential boyfriend/husband should you really be there?

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Which is a big red flag they are bad parents and make poor decisions in life which you want no part of.

no license is funny especially to this forum, but I wouldn't consider paying tuition a poor decision making on the parents' end...

complaining about it does add a bit of "lol why are you doing it then didn't you know going into this"

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.

I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened.

What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all.

What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally?

Wait I might be confusing the guys but didn't you marry your gf so that she wouldn't get deported after school? (If that's another guy, apologies)

And my guy regardless of the situation, "leaving your girl because she's irrational is like moving houses because of gravity" However, the compare herself to the ex is a bit of a red flag for me. Jealousy is good until it's not, this is the "until it's not" part

[someguywithanm3]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Wait I might be confusing the guys but didn't you marry your gf so that she wouldn't get deported after school? (If that's another guy, apologies)

And my guy regardless of the situation, "leaving your girl because she's irrational is like moving houses because of gravity" However, the compare herself to the ex is a bit of a red flag for me. Jealousy is good until it's not, this is the "until it's not" part

Wrong guy lol.

I'm going to leave this chick. Too many headaches. I think I was meant to be single.

Keep in mind, I've been super nice to her this whole time.

[andrewmr]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Why are women crazy?

I was at a friends house over the weekend and he was showing me his new Google Home (Alexa). So I asked Alexa, why are women crazy...... she's still answering.....

[someguywithanm3]

Originally Posted by andrewmr

I was at a friends house over the weekend and he was showing me his new Google Home (Alexa). So I asked Alexa, why are women crazy...... she's still answering.....

Hahahahaha

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.

I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened.

What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all.

What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally?

Never be on your best behavior, be yourself. She knows what she was getting into. My wife did, and she knows I don't care to argue about petty stuff.

In the past if she were to bring up the ex....I would squash it quick and ask why would I be with her....because even if we were not together, I wouldn't be with my ex.

Then reinforce the idea. That only lasted about a year and was less and less intense as it went by. But my wife is a jealous person while I am not.

My wife is really starting to lighten up, or I have corrupted her. We get each other gifts "for our eyes only"....this is what she gave me earlier!

And yes...it's going in my wallet! **Edit** By the way, I am a short guy..maybe 5'8" on a good day. But when you are short...everything looks bigger!

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.

I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened.

What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all.

What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally?

you have become her toy...
you need to put her in check.
1. when she starts ranting.. cut her off by slamming a chair, slam something hard.
2. tell her, she has 90 seconds to cool off, you are not putting up with her shit.
3. slam the door, go for a walk.
4. come back and ignore her, watch tv or pretend your busy lol

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by someguywithanm3

Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.

I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened.

What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all.

What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally?

I doubt it's anything you did. Unfortunately with these situations you have to look past what's going on if you've been nothing but nice and understanding. Talking about previous ex's shows she is insecure. She obviously cares about you, but is jealous. This doesn't necessarily have to do with anything you did or anyone you know, it can all be fabricated based on someone's past experiences. Some people will always be insecure. She may have been damaged by someone previously and the pain/distrust remains.

You have two options, the one you pick really depends on how much you think it's worth it to pursue her:

1. Walk away, tell her you are tired of the BS, you don't want to fight, and you have been nothing but faithful and the constant bringing up of the ex who isn't in your mind anymore is getting on your nerves. Tell her to either move past it or move on from your relationship.

2. Recognize that this person is insecure (don't EVER bring it up to them that you think this) and do your best to just continue to be understanding, as well as doing things that inspire trust. I'm not sure how long you've been together, but sometimes these things heal over time, sometimes they get worse. It really depends on your connection with this person and how open you can be. Finding out what in particular is bothering her (do you have a female friend you text a lot?) and addressing the issue can sometimes help. Tell her the ex is an ex for a reason, and you are with her now.



Sadly this is one of the biggest things that ends relationships from my experience. With social media and dating sites, it's easier to cheat more than ever, and many people have been cheated on. This results in people already not trusting others before they even get into a relationship. Combine this with a significant other being friends with someone who is better looking, wealthier, etc, and there is even more pressure. It comes down to you either trust someone or you don't, and this seems like a conversation that needs to be had.

[someguywithanm3]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

you have become her toy...
you need to put her in check.
1. when she starts ranting.. cut her off by slamming a chair, slam something hard.
2. tell her, she has 90 seconds to cool off, you are not putting up with her shit.
3. slam the door, go for a walk.
4. come back and ignore her, watch tv or pretend your busy lol

Ha ha. Let's see how she likes it.

[upstatedoc]

run

[kanovic]

Suck her penis. That’ll show her!

[suckbangblow]

Sounds bi-polar if you ask me.
Been there done that. I got out of that relationship.

One minute everything is fine, the other minute she's pissed for no reason. (In her mind, it's a legit reason though, which is the problem)

But being with one of those will teach you what to look out for, so you never have to deal with it again.

[kanovic]

Originally Posted by suckbangblow

Sounds bi-polar if you ask me.
Been there done that. I got out of that relationship.

One minute everything is fine, the other minute she's pissed for no reason. (In her mind, it's a legit reason though, which is the problem)

But being with one of those will teach you what to look out for, so you never have to deal with it again.

I have been married 13yrs man they are all batshit crazy. She is a stay at home mom and there are many days I come home and idk what I am coming home too lol. If the little one pisses her off it’s my fault too and she takes it out on everyone. I am a way more laid back person so to me it’s in one ear out the next. I think sometimes they just find something to bitch about to feel important idk I have t figured it out but it doesn’t get to me as much as it used too. Maybe since we have been together so long now it’s just a meh thing.

[King Rudi]

^regardless of time spent doing something, a bad decision is a bad decision. Nothing wrong with making bad decisions, it's what comes after that determines your character. I'm not saying run, but sometimes it's the best viable option.

I've been married twice. The first was a money hungry (because she's never had money) psycho. The second was a dick hungry psycho with BPD. You are correct, they are all batshit crazy, just different varieties of flavor.

[kanovic]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

^regardless of time spent doing something, a bad decision is a bad decision. Nothing wrong with making bad decisions, it's what comes after that determines your character. I'm not saying run, but sometimes it's the best viable option.

I've been married twice. The first was a money hungry (because she's never had money) psycho. The second was a dick hungry psycho with BPD. You are correct, they are all batshit crazy, just different varieties of flavor.

The good outweighs the bad. Some people are just like that and you have to accept it, everyone has their own way of dealing with stuff and their own personality. You cannot change a person you can just change how you react to that person.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by kanovic

The good outweighs the bad. Some people are just like that and you have to accept it, everyone has their own way of dealing with stuff and their own personality. You cannot change a person you can just change how you react to that person.

I can't argue with that. I bought my last car in Rossville!

[FuriouslyFast]

Had a new girl over last night &, apparently, she gave a friend my address (Fine, for safety so I get it)

Well, said friend texted her at some point & she had her phone on silent so...

The friend sent the cops to my house & they showed up while she was giving me a bj.

[nyalpine90]

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Had a new girl over last night &, apparently, she gave a friend my address (Fine, for safety so I get it)

Well, said friend texted her at some point & she had her phone on silent so...

The friend sent the cops to my house & they showed up while she was giving me a bj.

Exhibitionist tendencies, this might prove interesting. Or frustrating. Or interestingly frustrating with a GRAND finale.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Had a new girl over last night &, apparently, she gave a friend my address (Fine, for safety so I get it)

Well, said friend texted her at some point & she had her phone on silent so...

The friend sent the cops to my house & they showed up while she was giving me a bj.

I recommend you head to the Whack Off Wednesday thread and post your success there. Clearly you were interrupted, last night.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Had a new girl over last night &, apparently, she gave a friend my address (Fine, for safety so I get it)

Well, said friend texted her at some point & she had her phone on silent so...

The friend sent the cops to my house & they showed up while she was giving me a bj.

Please, please, please tell me that you explained to the cops the reason why she was too busy to answer her friends text. This would be fantastic if something like this came on Live PD.

[Rmtt]

I have had police show up in a couple occasions during that situation.

But I was younger and the act was going on in the car. When it's about to go down () ....you always think you've found a good spot to park without getting caught. At least that's what you convince her!