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12-23-2019, 06:15 PM | #4533 |
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Why are women crazy? I went from finding my soulmate to being with someone who occasionally loses her mind.
I have a failed marriage under my belt, so I try to be on my best behavior every day, but I still get nagged at about once every two weeks. She gets mad and I think she wants to fight, so I tell her I don't want to fight and disengage. She then loves me again the next day or two days after each incident and acts like nothing happened. What the heck am I doing wrong now? She gets mad over dumb crap like my ex. She'll compare herself to my ex and then tell me that I want her back. (I don't bring up my ex nor do I compare her to my ex, ever). I don't like my ex at all. What do you guys do when your wife or girlfriend isn't acting rationally? |
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but - old guy is how old? if you're 27 and he's well past his 35 then idk that just might be weird. I most certainly wouldn't want to get involved in a relationship with someone who's more than 6-7 years older than I am. And as someone else said, there are other guys lol if you have to ask to randos off a car forum about a potential boyfriend/husband should you really be there? Quote:
complaining about it does add a bit of "lol why are you doing it then didn't you know going into this" Quote:
And my guy regardless of the situation, "leaving your girl because she's irrational is like moving houses because of gravity" However, the compare herself to the ex is a bit of a red flag for me. Jealousy is good until it's not, this is the "until it's not" part |
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I'm going to leave this chick. Too many headaches. I think I was meant to be single. Keep in mind, I've been super nice to her this whole time. Last edited by someguywithanm3; 12-24-2019 at 08:34 AM.. |
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12-24-2019, 08:27 AM | #4536 |
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12-25-2019, 06:28 PM | #4538 | |
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Never be on your best behavior, be yourself. She knows what she was getting into. My wife did, and she knows I don't care to argue about petty stuff. In the past if she were to bring up the ex....I would squash it quick and ask why would I be with her....because even if we were not together, I wouldn't be with my ex. Then reinforce the idea. That only lasted about a year and was less and less intense as it went by. But my wife is a jealous person while I am not. My wife is really starting to lighten up, or I have corrupted her. We get each other gifts "for our eyes only"....this is what she gave me earlier! And yes...it's going in my wallet! **Edit** By the way, I am a short guy..maybe 5'8" on a good day. But when you are short...everything looks bigger!
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01-07-2020, 12:55 PM | #4539 | |
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you need to put her in check. 1. when she starts ranting.. cut her off by slamming a chair, slam something hard. 2. tell her, she has 90 seconds to cool off, you are not putting up with her shit. 3. slam the door, go for a walk. 4. come back and ignore her, watch tv or pretend your busy lol |
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You have two options, the one you pick really depends on how much you think it's worth it to pursue her: 1. Walk away, tell her you are tired of the BS, you don't want to fight, and you have been nothing but faithful and the constant bringing up of the ex who isn't in your mind anymore is getting on your nerves. Tell her to either move past it or move on from your relationship. 2. Recognize that this person is insecure (don't EVER bring it up to them that you think this) and do your best to just continue to be understanding, as well as doing things that inspire trust. I'm not sure how long you've been together, but sometimes these things heal over time, sometimes they get worse. It really depends on your connection with this person and how open you can be. Finding out what in particular is bothering her (do you have a female friend you text a lot?) and addressing the issue can sometimes help. Tell her the ex is an ex for a reason, and you are with her now. Sadly this is one of the biggest things that ends relationships from my experience. With social media and dating sites, it's easier to cheat more than ever, and many people have been cheated on. This results in people already not trusting others before they even get into a relationship. Combine this with a significant other being friends with someone who is better looking, wealthier, etc, and there is even more pressure. It comes down to you either trust someone or you don't, and this seems like a conversation that needs to be had.
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01-07-2020, 07:55 PM | #4543 |
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01-08-2020, 06:43 AM | #4544 |
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Sounds bi-polar if you ask me.
Been there done that. I got out of that relationship. One minute everything is fine, the other minute she's pissed for no reason. (In her mind, it's a legit reason though, which is the problem) But being with one of those will teach you what to look out for, so you never have to deal with it again. |
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^regardless of time spent doing something, a bad decision is a bad decision. Nothing wrong with making bad decisions, it's what comes after that determines your character. I'm not saying run, but sometimes it's the best viable option.
I've been married twice. The first was a money hungry (because she's never had money) psycho. The second was a dick hungry psycho with BPD. You are correct, they are all batshit crazy, just different varieties of flavor. |
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Had a new girl over last night &, apparently, she gave a friend my address (Fine, for safety so I get it)
Well, said friend texted her at some point & she had her phone on silent so... The friend sent the cops to my house & they showed up while she was giving me a bj. |
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I have had police show up in a couple occasions during that situation.
But I was younger and the act was going on in the car. When it's about to go down () ....you always think you've found a good spot to park without getting caught. At least that's what you convince her!
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