Need Advice..How to tell your girl she needs to go to the gym????

JohnSprm69 · 05-06-2010, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

exactly what the topic says. We've been together for a year, and we're pretty serious. from the time that we started dating to now she probably put on about 15-20lbs...and i kind of want to nip it in the butt now...the main issue is that i know it's really affecting her..by that i mean she won't go to certain places or do certain things because she feels out of place because of her weight...and she's only about 150lbs now...i try to take her to the gym with me all the time but she doesn't want to go...How do i convince her that it's really time to start working out and get back in shape...

you should have brought that up to her attention from the time you started dating. everyone knows when you start dating a new girl they are bound to gain weight since you are dining all the time and going out and stuff, so it was your job to let her know about weight gaining and not keeping the figure.

now you have to walk on thin ice handling this situation, not to be an ass or anything but if she doesn't comply or loose the weight my advise is to launch her as soon as possible because it will create problems in the future.

DrockNJ · 05-06-2010, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by coh4777

Damn that's a tough one! You know maybe she just needs a structured program. Sometimes girls (and guys too) can get intimidated about going to the gym especially if they feel like they are out of shape. Maybe that's why she doesn't want to go with you. So maybe see if she wants to try something at home like p90x. Or otherwise maybe when you go to the gym, try to take a class with her. Something fun like cardio kickboxing, spinning or even yoga if you are willing to do it. Maybe the class environment will appeal to her more than just aimlessly running on treadmills or grabbing free weights. Of course that will mean that you will have to alter your own routine...

this is what i'm currently trying to do...and the weird thing is that when i first met her she used to go to the gym regularly....and at one time she told me after dating for a few months about how she didn't like that i didn't go to the gym with her and that she wanted to date some one who was dedicated and all this mumbo jumbo...so i listened and started going to the gym...lost 25lbs...and now i love it...it's like the weight went from my ass to hers.... that's what i don't get...

silvergray545 · 05-06-2010, 12:52 PM

Just tell her. She'll listen. If you don't wanna do that, buy her those cute, expensive jeans she always wanted in the size she used to be. That will give her motivation to go workout.

nightkhan · 05-06-2010, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

...and she's only about 150lbs now...

yeah, as someone else mentioned....."only" and "150 lbs" should only apply if she's like 6 ft tall or soemthing

CollinsE90 · 05-06-2010, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

this is what i'm currently trying to do...and the weird thing is that when i first met her she used to go to the gym regularly....and at one time she told me after dating for a few months about how she didn't like that i didn't go to the gym with her and that she wanted to date some one who was dedicated and all this mumbo jumbo...so i listened and started going to the gym...lost 25lbs...and now i love it...it's like the weight went from my ass to hers.... that's what i don't get...

dude she played you....she was in the gym so she was fit for her to find a guy, she found you, AND made it clear she wanted you in the gym, and set back and ate a bucket of KFC when she got you locked

Peanuto · 05-06-2010, 01:14 PM

I still say bear trap the fridge.

BoxerGT2.5 · 05-06-2010, 01:22 PM

ililillilillilil · 05-06-2010, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

dude she played you....she was in the gym so she was fit for her to find a guy, she found you, AND made it clear she wanted you in the gym, and set back and ate a bucket of KFC when she got you locked

^

Blake · 05-06-2010, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by BoxerGT2.5

winner

Kensta335 · 05-06-2010, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by BoxerGT2.5

Verbiage · 05-06-2010, 01:35 PM

You guys need to have more sex. Excellent cardiovascular activity. I make 'em sweat every time. I'll be damned if I get stuck with another fat chick.

nightkhan · 05-06-2010, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Bavarian III

You guys need to have more sex. Excellent cardiovascular activity. I make 'em sweat every time. I'll be damned if I get stuck with another fat chick.

make sure you tell her to get on top

chinoxs203 · 05-06-2010, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by 335R1

I'll make sure to comment on other girls bodies when we're watching a movie.

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i think this is how i got mine to start the gym again. haha.. she already was small 105-110 but she was getting a gut and she even knew she was getting out of shape.

now shes getting tighter and bought her self boobs so im like banging a new chick..

Verbiage · 05-06-2010, 01:43 PM

I love chicks on top. Not all of them know how to ride, though. Pisses me off. I've only had one that could do it properly. The rest just bounce and screw up my mattress support boards

Hawkeye · 05-06-2010, 01:46 PM

She told me I could have anything I wanted for my bday and I said some nude pictures. She has been working out overtime ever since

I think I will just hold that card for a while and keep her ass in shape!!!

But seriously, if you don't feel comfortable saying it straight out then just try and get her into as many uncomfortable situations pertaining to her body as you possibly can and hopefully she starts getting back in shape for herself rather than for you.

Verbiage · 05-06-2010, 01:48 PM

She should want to lose weight for her. No female really WANTS to be fat. It's a part of their complex.

Memphis1 · 05-06-2010, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

exactly what the topic says. We've been together for a year, and we're pretty serious. from the time that we started dating to now she probably put on about 15-20lbs...and i kind of want to nip it in the butt now...the main issue is that i know it's really affecting her..by that i mean she won't go to certain places or do certain things because she feels out of place because of her weight...and she's only about 150lbs now...i try to take her to the gym with me all the time but she doesn't want to go...How do i convince her that it's really time to start working out and get back in shape...

tap that ass... 385 calories per hour!!!

Peanuto · 05-06-2010, 02:03 PM

Leave a line of donut holes. Wait at the end of it. If she follows it, eating them, and looks up at you, then you hand her the gym membership and she can't say no.

MediaArtist · 05-06-2010, 02:12 PM

I don't know how these 20 year old girls get so fat so early. My wife just passed the 30 mark and is still 100 pounds, her exact weight from college.

Verbiage · 05-06-2010, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Peanuto

Leave a line of donut holes. Wait at the end of it. If she follows it, eating them, and looks up at you, then you hand her the gym membership and she can't say no.

DAMN.

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Originally Posted by MediaArtist

I don't know how these 20 year old girls get so fat so early. My wife just passed the 30 mark and is still 100 pounds, her exact weight from college.

Seriously?

ARMAN · 05-06-2010, 02:21 PM

I just tell my girl straight up. I am serious.

ARMAN · 05-06-2010, 02:23 PM

Get her the P90X

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