Dating Different Culture

[upstatedoc]

tell me more about native american

[Marmugmotleocay]

My wife is 100 % Greek. When I piss her off she goes off in Greek. I have no idea what the hell she is saying.

[BimmerDimmer6]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

tell me more about native american

Very tribal!

[RickFLM4]

My wife is Nicaraguan. Her mom doesn’t speak English. I don’t speak Spanish. We always have at least one level of filter between us when we “talk” since there is a translator. Never had anything close to a disagreement with my MIL. I think I am brilliant.

[BimmerDimmer6]

Originally Posted by RickFLM4

My wife is Nicaraguan. Her mom doesn't speak English. I don't speak Spanish. We always have at least one level of filter between us when we "talk" since there is a translator. Never had anything close to a disagreement with my MIL. I think I am brilliant.

Jelly

[Mingwan]

Being mixed I have always felt like I could never completely immerse myself in my ethnic roots. Always feeling like an outsider here and in my mother’s homeland, I’m always left wanting even after mingling with “my people.” Having come back and forth with women in and outside of culturally similar backgrounds, I’ve felt that race or ethnicity are merely superficial compared to personality and intelligence which can be found indiscriminately in people anywhere therefor coming back to my roots became irrelevant.

Also crossing fingers for that extraterrestrial puhh in my lifetime

[LaVitaEBella]

Originally Posted by Marmugmotleocay

My wife is 100 % Greek. When I piss her off she goes off in Greek. I have no idea what the hell she is saying.

And that is how you lose the fight.

[ReadyToParty]

I'm Turkish but lighter skin one. (Most of my turkish friends look middle eastern. )
I'm mainly attracted to Spanish chicks and pretty much caramel skin tones.
Now dating Venezuelan/Puerto Rican
Ive dates from Haitian, Trini, Guyanese, Jamaican Russian alot of Italian and Sicilians, Uzbeks, Greeks, Armenians, Chinese/japanese mix and Turks that are central Asian backgrounds tanned skinned.
Where you from makes no difference it's your personality and how you carry yourself.

[nazali]

Anyong Ha se yo,

one of many phrases I learned while doing TKD

that's all I can add

Originally Posted by hl0m4n

i was born and raised in a town with not many asians. growing up i was always attracted to and dated white chicks. now in my 30s and under quarentine, i find myself finding all the things i hated about asian culture now becoming attractive.

[Dog Face Pony Soldier]

Originally Posted by Marmugmotleocay

My wife is 100 % Greek. When I piss her off she goes off in Greek. I have no idea what the hell she is saying.

For years I dated a girl from the country of Georgia (don't call her Russian!), and I used to tell her when she spoke in her native language it sounded like a chicken clucking. ROFL

[AlpineWhite_SJ]

Most important thing is that you share values. What kind of things you care about, goals in life, how to live, kids/no kids, religion, etc. Those things are common advice for any relationship, but if you add in relatives and perhaps some cultural differences it’ll only make those issues bigger.

[Gray_Panther]

Originally Posted by AlpineWhite_SJ

Most important thing is that you share values. What kind of things you care about, goals in life, how to live, kids/no kids, religion, etc. Those things are common advice for any relationship, but if you add in relatives and perhaps some cultural differences it’ll only make those issues bigger.

Yup!

It's so easy when you are just dating and it's just the two of you. Wait till later when you engage/marry and after that when kids come along. You don't marry just the other person, you also marry their family!

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Gray_Panther

Yup!

It's so easy when you are just dating and it's just the two of you. Wait till later when you engage/marry and after that when kids come along. You don't marry just the other person, you also marry their family!

thats when it gets very hairy...small issues become enormous! then truth comes out how one culture is not well accepted by the other.

[Noneya]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Polish girls are never good news hahahaha, i feel you on that

Currently I'm dating an Armenian/Polish chick, and I'm Turkish. So you can imagine the jokes I get daily from my boys. Her mom, the Armenian side, also hates me: this woman hasn't even met me yet

The one thing I won't ever do again, and wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy, is dating a Turkish girl.

The genocide is a huge trauma for Armenians that is still a raw open wound thanks to Turkish denial policy. Sure, the genocide is not your personal fault, and probably neither is the policy to any measurable degree, but you'll need to still own it and have to be absolutely perfect if you want her to stop hating you.

[Captain Blood]

Originally Posted by Dog Face Pony Soldier

For years I dated a girl from the country of Georgia (don't call her Russian!), and I used to tell her when she spoke in her native language it sounded like a chicken clucking. ROFL

I had an employee from Moscow, and I would always tell her clients (when she wasn't in earshot) that she was very proud to be from St. Petersburg. Her reaction was always priceless.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Noneya

The genocide is a huge trauma for Armenians that is still a raw open wound thanks to Turkish denial policy. Sure, the genocide is not your personal fault, and probably neither is the policy to any measurable degree, but you'll need to still own it and have to be absolutely perfect if you want her to stop hating you.

Quite frankly, I don't care.

I don't care because I don't live for people's approval. Gf's dad and the extended dad's side down to uncles and grand parents are more than okay with me, so are her cousins on mom's side. This woman is basically the only person that is against me.

And, and - if someone makes a comment like "He's handsome, sucks he's Turkish though", I have no business in trying to make myself likeable. I don't care simply because of this racism. Regardless of what it might be rooted in, I will not tolerate racism against me. If the both of us, in a relationship, do not mind this, and neither do my parents or even the other half of her family, her mom should either suck this up and be okay with it, or force my gf to break up with me. But I will not make an active effort for some dried up 50 year old racist to like me.

[Redd]

I'm Asian, lived in the US for 5 years then went home. My sister is still in the US and dating an African-American. So I speak from experience.

If you want to date an Asian, be prepared for racism from family members most of all, and community members as well. Koreans are particularly insular and prefer not to date outside the Korean community (I had a Korean GF for a while). If your partner cannot handle the pressure then things will get tough down the line.

Asian parents are particularly vicious. They will smile at you when you meet them and be the perfect host (must save face) but when you're gone, your partner is going to get nagged. And they will throw the whole kitchen sink - westerners don't respect our culture, let me find you a nice boy, etc. If you are not hearing your partner complain about this, it's likely they are shielding you from it, again to save face. Can't have the potential in-laws look like raving racists. So your partner needs to be able to handle the pressure. The MIL role in Crazy Rich Asians played by Michelle Yeoh was not an exaggeration (that was class discrimination, but same thing).

The good news is the parent will come around, maybe. If they can handle the pressure from the community. So obviously it's tougher if they live thick in the Asian community. If they're westernised Asians it's a lot easier. So just because you haven't seen any racism from your partners Asian community, don't assume it isn't there.

Even back here in Asia, in a multicultural country, Asian communities are still quite insular and still prefer to marry within their own communities. So it's not just the westerners we are racist to, we discriminate everyone equally.

[Noneya]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Quite frankly, I don't care.

I don't care because I don't live for people's approval. Gf's dad and the extended dad's side down to uncles and grand parents are more than okay with me, so are her cousins on mom's side. This woman is basically the only person that is against me.

And, and - if someone makes a comment like "He's handsome, sucks he's Turkish though", I have no business in trying to make myself likeable. I don't care simply because of this racism. Regardless of what it might be rooted in, I will not tolerate racism against me. If the both of us, in a relationship, do not mind this, and neither do my parents or even the other half of her family, her mom should either suck this up and be okay with it, or force my gf to break up with me. But I will not make an active effort for some dried up 50 year old racist to like me.

Don't think the word "racism" applies here. Armenians and Turks have mixed for a long time and racially are quite similar.

I doubt the not caring attitude will take you far, but whatever rocks your boat. After all, I don't care about your situation either.

[E93_Savage]

I only date interracially.

[Bunnny]

Im Native American (part irish) and my husband is German (on both sides, but born in Canada). Native women are loud, obnoxious, full of moxie, and we're strong minded.
I feel like a bull in a china shop at his family's gatherings.
His family is also catholic though, so I think religion can play a bigger part than race or genetics. My husband doesn't believe in any of that though, so thats another reason why we get along. I have my own spirituality, but after having dated other people with different beliefs, I'd rather a partner that doesn't believe in anything at all :lol

[BigHunk]

If you wanna "spice" up your life, date a Latina