Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

You do know that is when they will start coming out of the woodwork!

eh we'll see how that goes

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Hey Pickle - There are lots of shallow women out there, probably more so when they are younger. Looks aren't everything. How you carry yourself, and your attitude are more powerful. I'll take self confidence, a great personality and a good person with OK looks and physique over a GQ guy any day. Do not let the results from a dating site get you down.

Go study, don't get so caught up in finding that girl now. They'll come.

EDIT: And Rmtt and Now-Rudy, some men are just smoking hot with bald heads.

but there's one big, big big big difference (and don't take this the wrong way): if we assume your criteria as a sign of maturity and assume maturity comes through age... i'm screwed for a while lol

plus, i'm chilling. came to germany with my family, spent the whole day today at the museum and welt

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

The other day when we were picking up supplies at the grocery store down here on the islands, the old woman on the register told me I had a beautiful daughter.

I didn't know St. James had a grocery store

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

eh we'll see how that goes


but there's one big, big big big difference (and don't take this the wrong way): if we assume your criteria as a sign of maturity and assume maturity comes through age... i'm screwed for a while lol

plus, i'm chilling. came to germany with my family, spent the whole day today at the museum and welt

Thanks for reminding me that I am older than your mother.. I don't take offense. And, yes, maturity does have a lot to do with it but I stand by belief that self confidence and how you carry yourself play a huge role. My ex husband had a friend that was really nothing to look at. He dressed well and had this confidence that just oozed from his pores - I have no idea where it came from. He would approach the unapproachable, and 9 times out of 10 he got dates. All his friends were dumbfounded. I think his balls were bigger than his brain. He had no fear of being rejected.

[Ultimateone]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

if you post here, you have to share your adventures

Ok, few things that happened to me just thus year all from Match/Okcupid/Hinge

Dated a chic who lost her visa, told me she was gonna leave the country and couldn't be with me after 3 months of an awesome relationship and completely ghosted me back in Feb. Texted me a week ago asking to "stay on my couch" for a few days... unreal.

3 weeks ago some chic a few towns over from my work asked me out and she was HIV positive but said it's cool, she has it under control.

in July a woman in my small town said she knew were I lived, knew my car and asked if I wanted to go to the local bar. That freaked me the F out.

I could probably keep going, I feel like something weird happens every week to me

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Ultimateone

Ok, few things that happened to me just thus year all from Match/Okcupid/Hinge

Dated a chic who lost her visa, told me she was gonna leave the country and couldn't be with me after 3 months of an awesome relationship and completely ghosted me back in Feb. Texted me a week ago asking to "stay on my couch" for a few days... unreal.

3 weeks ago some chic a few towns over from my work asked me out and she was HIV positive but said it's cool, she has it under control.

in July a woman in my small town said she knew were I lived, knew my car and asked if I wanted to go to the local bar. That freaked me the F out.

I could probably keep going, I feel like something weird happens every week to me

keep going!

but that first chic was looking for some1 with $$$ to marry so she can stay. probably had some1 in mind, bailed out on u. It didnt work out, now she is back smh.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

but there's one big, big big big difference (and don't take this the wrong way): if we assume your criteria as a sign of maturity and assume maturity comes through age... i'm screwed for a while lol

Age has nothing to do with maturity. You, my friend, have no worried here. You're still young and a lot of what you do, or don't, is still acceptable, but you show more maturity than many adults that I know. You hold your own very well with many of us older types on here. That says much about you.

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Thanks for reminding me that I am older than your mother.. I don't take offense. And, yes, maturity does have a lot to do with it but I stand by belief that self confidence and how you carry yourself play a huge role. My ex husband had a friend that was really nothing to look at. He dressed well and had this confidence that just oozed from his pores - I have no idea where it came from. He would approach the unapproachable, and 9 times out of 10 he got dates. All his friends were dumbfounded. I think his balls were bigger than his brain. He had no fear of being rejected.

This. Sometimes, this attitude is faked in the beginning but then when it starts to pay off, the confidence level builds. Once the confidence is there, a person begins to realize just exactly what they are capable of. Being told no isn't nearly as bad as wondering "what if." "What if" will drive a person insane.

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Ultimateone

Ok, few things that happened to me just thus year all from Match/Okcupid/Hinge

Dated a chic who lost her visa, told me she was gonna leave the country and couldn't be with me after 3 months of an awesome relationship and completely ghosted me back in Feb. Texted me a week ago asking to "stay on my couch" for a few days... unreal.

3 weeks ago some chic a few towns over from my work asked me out and she was HIV positive but said it's cool, she has it under control.

in July a woman in my small town said she knew were I lived, knew my car and asked if I wanted to go to the local bar. That freaked me the F out.

I could probably keep going, I feel like something weird happens every week to me

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

keep going!

but that first chic was looking for some1 with $$$ to marry so she can stay. probably had some1 in mind, bailed out on u. It didnt work out, now she is back smh.

Dating sites are like swimming through the sewer with your mouth open hoping to get a 16 OZ Bone-in ribeye when you randomly bite down.

The crazy is concentrated and magnified...it will come at you like a spider monkey and you better be ready to duck, dodge, or clear out.

Good luck in your search, sir.

Cheers-mk

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Ultimateone

Ok, few things that happened to me just thus year all from Match/Okcupid/Hinge

Dated a chic who lost her visa, told me she was gonna leave the country and couldn't be with me after 3 months of an awesome relationship and completely ghosted me back in Feb. Texted me a week ago asking to "stay on my couch" for a few days... unreal.

3 weeks ago some chic a few towns over from my work asked me out and she was HIV positive but said it's cool, she has it under control.

in July a woman in my small town said she knew were I lived, knew my car and asked if I wanted to go to the local bar. That freaked me the F out.

I could probably keep going, I feel like something weird happens every week to me

How does one have HIV under control???

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

How does one have HIV under control???

Symptom management and labs.

UncleWede I can post a few pictures of under control aspects of various VDs if you wish. Let me know. I'm here to help.

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

eh we'll see how that goes


but there's one big, big big big difference (and don't take this the wrong way): if we assume your criteria as a sign of maturity and assume maturity comes through age... i'm screwed for a while lol

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Age has nothing to do with maturity. You, my friend, have no worried here. You're still young and a lot of what you do, or don't, is still acceptable, but you show more maturity than many adults that I know. You hold your own very well with many of us older types on here. That says much about you.

Now_Rudi I think Pickle means that the pool he is fishing in isn't mature.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Now_Rudi I think Pickle means that the pool he is fishing in isn't mature.

Ah.....I'll serve myself the today.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by MKSixer

Symptom management.

x infinity

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Thanks for reminding me that I am older than your mother.. I don't take offense. And, yes, maturity does have a lot to do with it but I stand by belief that self confidence and how you carry yourself play a huge role. My ex husband had a friend that was really nothing to look at. He dressed well and had this confidence that just oozed from his pores - I have no idea where it came from. He would approach the unapproachable, and 9 times out of 10 he got dates. All his friends were dumbfounded. I think his balls were bigger than his brain. He had no fear of being rejected.

i... no i didn't mean to remind you of your age
i mean, the way i look at it is i definitely wouldn't be here doing what i do if i never just took the shot. i wouldn't be studying in a school thats top 3 for my
major, wouldn't be running many organizations on campus etc. it's really not about being fearful of rejection, but more about after a point youre like "okay i tried this this and this, changed that too but still same result wtf is going wrong"

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Age has nothing to do with maturity. You, my friend, have no worried here. You're still young and a lot of what you do, or don't, is still acceptable, but you show more maturity than many adults that I know. You hold your own very well with many of us older types on here. That says much about you.

This. Sometimes, this attitude is faked in the beginning but then when it starts to pay off, the confidence level builds. Once the confidence is there, a person begins to realize just exactly what they are capable of. Being told no isn't nearly as bad as wondering "what if." "What if" will drive a person insane.

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Now_Rudi I think Pickle means that the pool he is fishing in isn't mature.

i'm on mobile so the formatting is ass, but Rudi my guy thanks for the compliment. and yes - the pool i'm fishing in isn't really all that mature lol have you ever had the chance to chill with 20 something old hotties?

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

have you ever had the chance to chill with 20 something old hotties?

Yes.....from age 17 to 38. I stopped because the conversation, or lack thereof, left me wanting to bang my head into a wall. Solitude was better.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Yes.....from age 17 to 38. I stopped because the conversation, or lack thereof, left me wanting to bang my head into a wall. Solitude was better.

see, there ya go
they're hot but generally very useless as human beings. i truly wonder how some people made it so far in life (age wise) sometimes hahah

like the last girl: the girl with hobbies of "cooking, travelling, and being sustainable". she was cute and hot at the same time (that's how they get you i swear) and an actually nice (at least nice acting) human but she was just empty

which, by the way, interesting turn of events: i dont like to ghost, so i told her "hey i still think youre cute but this wont work out, good luck and have fun in your life", ended up being ghosted. woke up next morning to her deleting me off snap (okay), unfollow from instagram (understandable), and un-connect from linkedin (what the fuck?). then a few weeks later realized she unmatched me on hinge too...

im sure we'll end up running into each other on campus so i kinda want to play the "oh i fucked up pls lets give each other another chance" card to see how much i can push her: this is evil yes but . after running into her dad who i never met (shoutout online presence though so i knew what he looked like) and the guy giving me dirty looks and even shouldering me at the car meet i ran into him, he knows. so why not? i'm not petty generally, i just like playing the game by it's rules.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

see, there ya go
they're hot but generally very useless as human beings. i truly wonder how some people made it so far in life (age wise) sometimes hahah

like the last girl: the girl with hobbies of "cooking, travelling, and being sustainable". she was cute and hot at the same time (that's how they get you i swear) and an actually nice (at least nice acting) human but she was just empty

which, by the way, interesting turn of events: i dont like to ghost, so i told her "hey i still think youre cute but this wont work out, good luck and have fun in your life", ended up being ghosted. woke up next morning to her deleting me off snap (okay), unfollow from instagram (understandable), and un-connect from linkedin (what the fuck?). then a few weeks later realized she unmatched me on hinge too...

im sure we'll end up running into each other on campus so i kinda want to play the "oh i fucked up pls lets give each other another chance" card to see how much i can push her: this is evil yes but . after running into her dad who i never met (shoutout online presence though so i knew what he looked like) and the guy giving me dirty looks and even shouldering me at the car meet i ran into him, he knows. so why not? i'm not petty generally, i just like playing the game by it's rules.

I like where this is going.......devious little pickle you are.

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

I didn't know St. James had a grocery store

We came in through Sullivan's.....so through My. Pleasant.

We stay up at Wild Dunes.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

I like where this is going.......devious little pickle you are.

Not sure if "little pickle" is a nickname one would want.

[Ultimateone]

lmao

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

see, there ya go
they're hot but generally very useless as human beings. i truly wonder how some people made it so far in life (age wise) sometimes hahah

like the last girl: the girl with hobbies of "cooking, travelling, and being sustainable". she was cute and hot at the same time (that's how they get you i swear) and an actually nice (at least nice acting) human but she was just empty

which, by the way, interesting turn of events: i dont like to ghost, so i told her "hey i still think youre cute but this wont work out, good luck and have fun in your life", ended up being ghosted. woke up next morning to her deleting me off snap (okay), unfollow from instagram (understandable), and un-connect from linkedin (what the fuck?). then a few weeks later realized she unmatched me on hinge too...

im sure we'll end up running into each other on campus so i kinda want to play the "oh i fucked up pls lets give each other another chance" card to see how much i can push her: this is evil yes but . after running into her dad who i never met (shoutout online presence though so i knew what he looked like) and the guy giving me dirty looks and even shouldering me at the car meet i ran into him, he knows. so why not? i'm not petty generally, i just like playing the game by it's rules.

update: first week of school over, didnt see her yet (she doesnt drink; i should pick up some sober hobbies) but i met and took one of her friends home

will keep you all updated on my "devious little pickle" acts

[nyalpine90]

u took her friend home and......

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

u took her friend home and......

They had a little bible study, shared a firm handshake and said good night.