Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Was her name Amy??? Sounds just like my ex-wife. She pulled the same shit on me the week after my father committed suicide. She used the "You're always sad all the time and I want to be happy. I want to see people who can have a good time and not be so depressed." I'm sorry that my disposition during the week of my father shooting himself on Christmas ruined your good time. Thanks for the emotional support during the most dark time of my life

That really sucks. I have no words. So sorry.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Was her name Amy??? Sounds just like my ex-wife. She pulled the same shit on me the week after my father committed suicide. She used the "You're always sad all the time and I want to be happy. I want to see people who can have a good time and not be so depressed." I'm sorry that my disposition during the week of my father shooting himself on Christmas ruined your good time. Thanks for the emotional support during the most dark time of my life

It actually is, but she spells it Aimee

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

... damn man, that must've been incredibly rough. sorry to hear that

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Yeah...me too.

Been in similar situations and it changes you for life.

Originally Posted by MKSixer

That's horrible on all accounts. I'm really sorry to hear it.

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

That really sucks. I have no words. So sorry.

Thanks guys. I appreciate that. Wasn't fishing for sympathy but thank you for your words.

Rough time for sure but it made me a stronger person. When you have to endure something like that alone, it makes you very resilient, maybe a little bitter but in the end you realize that life is precious and to appreciate every minute of it. Also when you go through something that dark, alone; you realize just how cynical people truly are.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

It actually is, but she spells it Aimee

Of course it is.

Dude.....seriously, so many similarities here it's uncanny. She did actually tell me that "she didn't owe me sex" once. Would also disappear and hide with no communication for weeks, then come back around and not want sex (she was a nympho). The last I saw or heard of her, she stayed at my place memorial day weekend a few years ago, she left Monday morning and vanished. No return phone call, no replies to text....nothing. Three months later I get a text stating she was married and moving to England.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Was her name Amy??? Sounds just like my ex-wife. She pulled the same shit on me the week after my father committed suicide. She used the "You're always sad all the time and I want to be happy. I want to see people who can have a good time and not be so depressed." I'm sorry that my disposition during the week of my father shooting himself on Christmas ruined your good time. Thanks for the emotional support during the most dark time of my life

From reading all your past experiences, the difficult obstacles you have over come definitely made you stronger person, and better human being that we lack in todays society. Much respect to you and keep your head up high some of us do find strength in your posts, like myself!

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

From reading all your past experiences, the difficult obstacles you have over come definitely made you stronger person, and better human being that we lack in todays society. Much respect to you and keep your head up high some of us do find strength in your posts, like myself!

I appreciate that, thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I've been through some shit just as everyone else has. Some of it has made me stronger, some of it just made me more jaded and hard to relate to.....and some of it just made me a bitter asshole.

Life is hard and people are dicks, stand still long enough and you'll get trampled by either or both; it's only a matter of time. Personally I feel like a person only has two options, keep living - regardless of how difficult it is or exit stage left - which is not an option to me. I know first hand how hard it was to deal with my fathers passing under those circumstances and refuse to put my two boys through that.

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

no.

My slaps are usually placed elsewhere and as a term of "yeah, get it girl."

You get your hands ON my ass, right this minute

wait, whut???

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

You get your hands ON my ass, right this minute

wait, whut???

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by UncleWede

You get your hands ON my ass, right this minute

wait, whut???

The more I read your posts, the more I think you really are a pot head and your screen name has nothing to do with your real name.

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

The more I read your posts, the more I think you really are a pot head and your screen name has nothing to do with your real name.

My BILIL informed me last weekend that he visited one of the local dispensaries, and found products he very much enjoys.

Keep that out of my wheelhouse, I'm on the surprise drug testing list at work, and I want to keep my job. But sure, I'll have another martini

[Turkish Pickle]

talking to a buddy after my conclusive date yesterday we realized neither of us really know what to do in a relationship.

this is bad, yes, but can anyone shed light?

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

talking to a buddy after my conclusive date yesterday we realized neither of us really know what to do in a relationship.

this is bad, yes, but can anyone shed light?

What did I miss this time?

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

talking to a buddy after my conclusive date yesterday we realized neither of us really know what to do in a relationship.

this is bad, yes, but can anyone shed light?

well its simple.
1) can you be committed to your partner and only that person.
2) communication, love ,respect and trust is important.

without trust, no relationship will last, or function.

if you cant see yourself with 1 person, then you are not ready to be in relationship.

it also means no more dating site, no more booty calls lol

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

well its simple.
1) can you be committed to your partner and only that person.
2) communication, love ,respect and trust is important.

without trust, no relationship will last, or function.

if you cant see yourself with 1 person, then you are not ready to be in relationship.

it also means no more dating site, no more booty calls lol

Let's delve deeper here. Let's say a person has 1. & 2. covered - love, commitment, communication, trust and respect are all checked. What is a person actually supposed to do in a relationship?

I'll add encouragement, growth and adding value to the other persons life. Along with support them emotionally, we all have bad days.

I'd also like to add that I don't mind to assist......in the kitchen......when she is making me a sandwich.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Let's delve deeper here. Let's say a person has 1. & 2. covered - love, commitment, communication, trust and respect are all checked. What is a person actually supposed to do in a relationship?

I'll add encouragement, growth and adding value to the other persons life. Along with support them emotionally, we all have bad days.

I'd also like to add that I don't mind to assist......in the kitchen......when she is making me a sandwich.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

What did I miss this time?

attached image happened; you know it's bad when she assumes you do hard drugs yet still somehow bore her... not sticking around for someone who thinks im a druggie or a boring person.

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

well its simple.
1) can you be committed to your partner and only that person.
2) communication, love ,respect and trust is important.

without trust, no relationship will last, or function.

if you cant see yourself with 1 person, then you are not ready to be in relationship.

it also means no more dating site, no more booty calls lol

well yeah my guy i know this, but that's not what i meant.

i meant as in what to expect? you can communicate clearly, be "in love" with someone while respecting and trusting them but what is one supposed to do, have her/him be a +1 to one's life or become your best friend or something else??

Originally Posted by Now_Rudi

Let's delve deeper here. Let's say a person has 1. & 2. covered - love, commitment, communication, trust and respect are all checked. What is a person actually supposed to do in a relationship?

I'll add encouragement, growth and adding value to the other persons life. Along with support them emotionally, we all have bad days.

I'd also like to add that I don't mind to assist......in the kitchen......when she is making me a sandwich.

i guess i really have a bad and completely wrong view on relationships then, a lot of my close buddies will do that for me on almost a daily basis. yet to meet someone who lacks a penis who i can connect with to get to that level idk maybe relationships isnt my thing, but we already knew this. im just lost on what to expect/expecting more than "hehe im sarcastic, lets watch the office together" clearly isn't doing me well

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

i meant as in what to expect? you can communicate clearly, be "in love" with someone while respecting and trusting them but what is one supposed to do, have her/him be a +1 to one's life or become your best friend or something else??


i guess i really have a bad and completely wrong view on relationships then, a lot of my close buddies will do that for me on almost a daily basis. yet to meet someone who lacks a penis who i can connect with to get to that level idk maybe relationships isnt my thing, but we already knew this. im just lost on what to expect/expecting more than "hehe im sarcastic, lets watch the office together" clearly isn't doing me well

Grasshopper /Pickle - You're thinking too much. You just haven't found the right person yet. It is possible to find someone without a penis that you can be friends with, hang out with and also be in love with. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince(ss).

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

Grasshopper /Pickle - You're thinking too much. You just haven't found the right person yet. It is possible to find someone without a penis that you can be friends with, hang out with and also be in love with. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince(ss).

This 100%. Once you have a connection with someone it will all make sense. The problem is finding someone who you think is attractive that you also enjoy being with and spending time with.

[King Rudi]

Originally Posted by cmyx6go

You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince(ss).

You don't necessarily "have" to, but sometimes you'll kiss a lot worse things than frogs.

[Rmtt]

You will know when it comes along. Anyone I have ever seen for an extended period of time always had some type of idiosncrasy that I just couldn't get past no matter how small it may have been.

And I'm sure they felt the same about me.

There would always be something that could get on my nerves even if not apparent at first.

But when you meet the right one......it's kind of like they can do no wrong. This is the icing on the cake. Stuff that you found the least little bit irritating with others don't bother you....in fact you may even find it all "cute". Even the "shallow" stuff as how they look when they first wake up....etc.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that all that superficial stuff no longer matters....you don't even think about it. And you "click" in pretty much every other aspect of the relationship.

Now no one is perfect, but if you get what I described above pretty much nailed down, and the relationship seems way to easy.....it's a good sign.

Not saying there won't be trying times, but when they come along and you could just as easily walk away.....then you no that's not the one. When you have someone you're committed to making it work with.....and realize that it's not always the other person's faults or hang-ups....that it could actually be you that needs the extra work.....I think it's safe to say you have found a good one.

Granted I say this only once you are content and happy with yourself. If you aren't at that point, you may find yourself looking to others to fill that void and that isn't a place you want to be!

[Turkish Pickle]

Thanks guys, i see your point(s). Honestly reflecting back it's me mismanaging the interaction and being impulsive while reaching conclusions that aren't even there - i'm not blaming myself fully for how it unfolded but i definitely could've done better.

All we can do now is move forward, no?

[cmyx6go]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Granted I say this only once you are content and happy with yourself. If you aren't at that point, you may find yourself looking to others to fill that void and that isn't a place you want to be!

I think this is the smartest thing I've ever read on the internet. So true.