Women's congruence tests... and how to pass them?

[floridaorange]

Meeting the right woman to marry was a goal of mine since I was little. I wanted a smart, beautiful, sexy woman and that's what I got. We met when I was 24 and were married by 28. My suggestion is the same to all my single friends, guys & girls. You have to know what you are looking for! You need to have a picture in your mind and keep it there. You also need to know what type of personality is compatible with you when it comes to a long term relationship. That doesn't mean someone you just always agree with, it means someone you respect and when you are around them there is serious chemistry. My wife is as beautiful to me today as she was when I met her.

Anyway, you also have to know yourself, very well. If marriage isn't your goal, as it always was for me, then accept that and enjoy being a batchelor and all that has to offer. For me, being single got boring by the time I was about 26-27. Casual relationships seemed pointless. I wanted to be serious and have a serious relationship.

My point is - what are your relationship goals, benchmarks? Like a business, you will get out of them exactly what you put into them. Effort, thought, imagination work, goals, visualization, it all matters!

OP, what city do you live in? How old are you? How many serious relationships (said "I love you" or close to it) have you been in?

Lastly - my wife exceeded my goals outwardly, inwardly I really respected her - but she wasn't as easy going as I was used to and that put me off a little. But, as a man of faith I truly felt she was the one, as her spiritual beliefs were like mine and her appreciation and admiration for my family and our belief system was high. 16 yrs later and life is beautiful!

[Watching The World Burn]

Originally Posted by floridaorange

Meeting the right woman to marry was a goal of mine since I was little. I wanted a smart, beautiful, sexy woman and that's what I got. We met when I was 24 and were married by 28. My suggestion is the same to all my single friends, guys & girls. You have to know what you are looking for! You need to have a picture in your mind and keep it there. You also need to know what type of personality is compatible with you when it comes to a long term relationship. That doesn't mean someone you just always agree with, it means someone you respect and when you are around them there is serious chemistry. My wife is as beautiful to me today as she was when I met her.

Anyway, you also have to know yourself, very well. If marriage isn't your goal, as it always was for me, then accept that and enjoy being a batchelor and all that has to offer. For me, being single got boring by the time I was about 26-27. Casual relationships seemed pointless. I wanted to be serious and have a serious relationship.

My point is - what are your relationship goals, benchmarks? Like a business, you will get out of them exactly what you put into them. Effort, thought, imagination work, goals, visualization, it all matters!

OP, what city do you live in? How old are you? How many serious relationships (said "I love you" or close to it) have you been in?

Lastly - my wife exceeded my goals outwardly, inwardly I really respected her - but she wasn't as easy going as I was used to and that put me off a little. But, as a man of faith I truly felt she was the one, as her spiritual beliefs were like mine and her appreciation and admiration for my family and our belief system was high. 16 yrs later and life is beautiful!

So she reads these forums on the regular is what you are saying...

I'm kidding!

[No one]

Originally Posted by floridaorange

Meeting the right woman to marry was a goal of mine since I was little.

Weren't you too little to marry back then?

[Onizukachan]

1: What the fook is a “congruence test”?


2: past third date or 3rd week and no sex then cheers to you, friend. Because that’s all you’ll be. I’m not wasting time, Either you’ve got the hots for me or you don’t.



3: you are her gay friend and you don’t know it. She might not even know it but that little scene is straight out of straight girl gay gay friendship cattiness.



4: bail


5 eject eject eject


6 run Forrest run.

[chresto]

Originally Posted by Onizukachan

1: What the fook is a “congruence test??

AKA shit test.

[floridaorange]

Originally Posted by Onizukachan

1: What the fook is a “congruence test”?


2: past third date or 3rd week and no sex then cheers to you, friend. Because that’s all you’ll be. I’m not wasting time, Either you’ve got the hots for me or you don’t.



3: you are her gay friend and you don’t know it. She might not even know it but that little scene is straight out of straight girl gay gay friendship cattiness.



4: bail


5 eject eject eject


6 run Forrest run.

Originally Posted by Onizukachan

1: What the fook is a "congruence test"?


2: past third date or 3rd week and no sex then cheers to you, friend. Because that's all you'll be. I'm not wasting time, Either you've got the hots for me or you don't.



3: you are her gay friend and you don't know it. She might not even know it but that little scene is straight out of straight girl gay gay friendship cattiness.



4: bail


5 eject eject eject


6 run Forrest run.

Accurate

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by floridaorange

Meeting the right woman to marry was a goal of mine since I was little. I wanted a smart, beautiful, sexy woman and that's what I got. We met when I was 24 and were married by 28. My suggestion is the same to all my single friends, guys & girls. You have to know what you are looking for! You need to have a picture in your mind and keep it there. You also need to know what type of personality is compatible with you when it comes to a long term relationship. That doesn't mean someone you just always agree with, it means someone you respect and when you are around them there is serious chemistry. My wife is as beautiful to me today as she was when I met her.

Anyway, you also have to know yourself, very well. If marriage isn't your goal, as it always was for me, then accept that and enjoy being a batchelor and all that has to offer. For me, being single got boring by the time I was about 26-27. Casual relationships seemed pointless. I wanted to be serious and have a serious relationship.

My point is - what are your relationship goals, benchmarks? Like a business, you will get out of them exactly what you put into them. Effort, thought, imagination work, goals, visualization, it all matters!

OP, what city do you live in? How old are you? How many serious relationships (said "I love you" or close to it) have you been in?

Lastly - my wife exceeded my goals outwardly, inwardly I really respected her - but she wasn't as easy going as I was used to and that put me off a little. But, as a man of faith I truly felt she was the one, as her spiritual beliefs were like mine and her appreciation and admiration for my family and our belief system was high. 16 yrs later and life is beautiful!

This is super nice man, love to hear it, gives me hope to get out of the dating pool once and for all some time soon lol

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by floridaorange

That's not been my experience

I'm guessing you are over 40? Social media has wrecked the dating scene. The whole "grass is always greener" mentality, and people jump from person to person until in the end they are left with nothing.

The people you speak of are out there, but on the endangered species list now.

[floridaorange]

42 and thankful - dating app life sounds like a proper nightmare

[wren57]

OP, why do you even want to pass her "tests"? What is your goal here?

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by wren57

OP, why do you even want to pass her "tests"? What is your goal here?

+1

A significant other should compliment your life, not complicate it.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by floridaorange

42 and thankful - dating app life sounds like a proper nightmare

It's basically just another video game on your phone.

[NeverL8]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

+1

A significant other should compliment your life, not complicate it.

Man I needed that! Thank you!

[D_o_S]

Drumroll please... this episode comes to an end!

I won't beat around the bush: so, she confessed to me that she has a lover. She was quite adamant about calling him that, and while she made it quite clear that she is sleeping with him, she also purposely did not refer to him as "partner", boyfriend or similar.

And so, the previous episode comes to an end, with a little bit of closure (for us all I guess)! Again, some will call me weird, some will say I am a troll, some will say I am a simp... but all in all, I have no regrets, no bitter feelings for all that I did for her, for I did it all out of my free will. And, I am thankful for all our experiences, and for everything she (and this whole experience has) taught me.

I guess it was clear from the outset (even though I may not have wanted to admit it, being honest) that our friendship would progress this way, and hey, I am so happy for her! I will build on the lessons and experiences, be less of a simp... and life my life more for myself, than for everyone else.

I would like to thank everyone on this forum for their insights!

Till next time, friends!

[dreamingat30fps]

Originally Posted by D_o_S

Drumroll please... this episode comes to an end!

I won't beat around the bush: so, she confessed to me that she has a lover. She was quite adamant about calling him that, and while she made it quite clear that she is sleeping with him, she also purposely did not refer to him as "partner", boyfriend or similar.

And so, the previous episode comes to an end, with a little bit of closure (for us all I guess)! Again, some will call me weird, some will say I am a troll, some will say I am a simp... but all in all, I have no regrets, no bitter feelings for all that I did for her, for I did it all out of my free will. And, I am thankful for all our experiences, and for everything she (and this whole experience has) taught me.

I guess it was clear from the outset (even though I may not have wanted to admit it, being honest) that our friendship would progress this way, and hey, I am so happy for her! I will build on the lessons and experiences, be less of a simp... and life my life more for myself, than for everyone else.

I would like to thank everyone on this forum for their insights!

Till next time, friends!

This thread is from 2022… are you saying you’ve wasted another 2 years on this?? I’m hoping she confessed 2 years ago and you just got around to telling us now.

[Watching The World Burn]

Originally Posted by dreamingat30fps

This thread is from 2022… are you saying you’ve wasted another 2 years on this?? I’m hoping she confessed 2 years ago and you just got around to telling us now.

I hate to say this but you and I both already know the answer to this question.

Ouch.

Stop overthinking everything OP. Do what you enjoy, you'll find someone hopefully and when you do, don't overanalyze. Stand up for yourself and for her but if she's not showing reciprocal interest in you and your activities/ interests then move on quickly.

[DrVenture]

His screen name translates to "denial of service" and gives it a whole new meaning.

[Alfisti]

This lifts this to one of the all time great threads. Good god.