Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Never_Enough

This bitch is a freak.She said she's into the rape fantasy shit. I'm out on that crapola.

She's supposed to come over tonight. I'm guessing she ghosts. I just have that feeling. Doesn't matter to me either way. I am looking forward to getting home & watching Mayans anyway

Sounds like a win/win either way. Rape fantasy huh? I've heard of women being into this but I've never experienced the scenario. I need to drop more of my experiences on here.

CTinline-six · 09-12-2018, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

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Originally Posted by Never_Enough

& speaking of getting laid, just got this gem's #...

I think that's a dude playing you.
Maybe a scammer.

+1

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 11:02 AM

The Therapist Story:

At one point in my life I went through some pretty horrific life changing experiences. Rather than focus on what put me in therapy, I'll focus on the the therapist.

I go to my first session and I notice instantly that the counselor is attracted to me. I read people instantly, comes from being in sales and sales management most of my adult life. She giving all the tale-tale signs, can't get comfortable in her seat, over eye-contact, lips - licking them, biting them, touching them etc. and also doing everything she can not to project that she is attracted. We have our first session, I'm crying, she cries, offers advice for different perspective and whatnot as counselors do but at one point she reaches over and touches my leg. It did not go unnoticed on my end.

I have 5 more sessions with her. We become very comfortable with each other during the sessions and get to a place where we are laughing and smiling as I am working through my issues and our discussions. One evening I get a phone call from a cell phone number that wasn't stored as a contact in my phone and it was her calling from her personal cell phone. She informed me that she no longer worked for the group and she was calling her patients to inform them of the changes. She kept everything very professional stating no real reason as to why she was leaving but she did inform me that the office would be calling to make arrangements to set me up with another counselor. I honestly felt that mentally I was in a much better place and had been considering ending my counseling. I explained this to her and she agreed, she felt that I potentially needed to discuss a few more topics concerning my relationships with women as this was one of the issues I was having at the time and offered to meet with me one on one privately at no charge. I agreed.

The first private session took place at my home. She arrived and was dressed a little less formal that she did at her office but still very nice. I mentioned to her that it was nice to see her a little more comfortable in how she was dressed and she replied with it was nice to be a little less formal with meeting and having a low key session. She also made a comment that I instantly picked up on about being comfortable around me in general.

As we discussed my issues with relationships that I had she does the therapist thing and tells me that it stems from issues with my mother, blah, blah, blah...but as we continued and I started being a little more open about my dating habits I noticed her body language changed; she was intrigued.

The next session took place at my home as well. This time she showed up with her hair up, her glasses on, a form-fitting blue button down shirt (exposing cleavage) and a short black mini-skirt with high-heels. I had never seen her dress like this before. She explained that this would be our last private session and that she just wanted to talk and feel me out. Not real topics of conversation, she wasn't trying to dig deep into my psyche or any of the rest of it. I offered her a drink, she accepted and we sat in my living room had a few drinks, smoked a few cigarettes....at the time I smoked weed, she knew this and allowed me to smoke a bowl in front of her. We actually had a good time together. Without going into details and making this sound anymore like penthouse forums that it already has, lets just say the evening ending very well and we both learned a lot about each other.

That was 2013, I haven't seen her in 2 years but she still reaches out on occasion. in fact, she's the one that called this past weekend. She is still single and trying to find a man but keeps me posted on her dating experiences and wants to come see me for a random hook-up but I decline due to the girlfriend.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

I think that's a dude playing you.
Maybe a scammer.

Nope, I checked.

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 11:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Quote:

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

The Therapist Story:

At one point in my life I went through some pretty horrific life changing experiences. Rather than focus on what put me in therapy, I'll focus on the the therapist.

I go to my first session and I notice instantly that the counselor is attracted to me. I read people instantly, comes from being in sales and sales management most of my adult life. She giving all the tale-tale signs, can't get comfortable in her seat, over eye-contact, lips - licking them, biting them, touching them etc. and also doing everything she can not to project that she is attracted. We have our first session, I'm crying, she cries, offers advice for different perspective and whatnot as counselors do but at one point she reaches over and touches my leg. It did not go unnoticed on my end.

I have 5 more sessions with her. We become very comfortable with each other during the sessions and get to a place where we are laughing and smiling as I am working through my issues and our discussions. One evening I get a phone call from a cell phone number that wasn't stored as a contact in my phone and it was her calling from her personal cell phone. She informed me that she no longer worked for the group and she was calling her patients to inform them of the changes. She kept everything very professional stating no real reason as to why she was leaving but she did inform me that the office would be calling to make arrangements to set me up with another counselor. I honestly felt that mentally I was in a much better place and had been considering ending my counseling. I explained this to her and she agreed, she felt that I potentially needed to discuss a few more topics concerning my relationships with women as this was one of the issues I was having at the time and offered to meet with me one on one privately at no charge. I agreed.

The first private session took place at my home. She arrived and was dressed a little less formal that she did at her office but still very nice. I mentioned to her that it was nice to see her a little more comfortable in how she was dressed and she replied with it was nice to be a little less formal with meeting and having a low key session. She also made a comment that I instantly picked up on about being comfortable around me in general.

As we discussed my issues with relationships that I had she does the therapist thing and tells me that it stems from issues with my mother, blah, blah, blah...but as we continued and I started being a little more open about my dating habits I noticed her body language changed; she was intrigued.

The next session took place at my home as well. This time she showed up with her hair up, her glasses on, a form-fitting blue button down shirt (exposing cleavage) and a short black mini-skirt with high-heels. I had never seen her dress like this before. She explained that this would be our last private session and that she just wanted to talk and feel me out. Not real topics of conversation, she wasn't trying to dig deep into my psyche or any of the rest of it. I offered her a drink, she accepted and we sat in my living room had a few drinks, smoked a few cigarettes....at the time I smoked weed, she knew this and allowed me to smoke a bowl in front of her. We actually had a good time together. Without going into details and making this sound anymore like penthouse forums that it already has, lets just say the evening ending very well and we both learned a lot about each other.

That was 2013, I haven't seen her in 2 years but she still reaches out on occasion. in fact, she's the one that called this past weekend. She is still single and trying to find a man but keeps me posted on her dating experiences and wants to come see me for a random hook-up but I decline due to the girlfriend.

Keep these stories coming so we can keep coming (back to this thread, obviously)

I also picked up a chick on my second or third visit to the therapists office. I was sitting in the waiting room when she came in and was checking in when I noticed her pull her pants up and was mesmerized at her assets.

After she checked in she went outside to smoke and I joined her. Struck up a conversation with her and she was at my house that night. This chick was Cuh-Ray-Zee!!! Of course the sex was nothing short of some porno type shit. We got together a few times over about a month's time span until I finally couldn't take her crazy ads anymore and stopped responding to her texts.

aozer · 09-12-2018, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

I was talking about scammers, reminded me of what's happening with me.

Two weeks ago I created Bumble and Tinder profiles to see what's up.
Pictures of me, mostly face/torso only, clothed, suit, T-shirt etc.

I got 2 matches on Tinder (0 on Bumble) in 2 weeks, and both messaged me after I said Hi with the same message "ur numberr" (sic)

Reported both as scam and deleted my accounts yesterday to recreate the profiles from scratch (and rematch and open the opportunity to be matched with again).

This time around I added a message on my profiles, saying only: "Looking to meet interesting and friendly people"
But I changed my pictures to have full body shots, and 2 shirtless pics (one of my back as I was in a river in Bern, and the other one shirtless driving a boat on lake Como in Italy). The locations are not known to anyone, and I don't workout, so I'm not buffed, but I'm lucky I don't gain weight easily.

Since late afternoon yesterday to this morning, so 12 hours, I already have 10 matches on Tinder and 1 on Bumble. And the conversations are flowing so they seem to be real girls...

The thing that struck me was: 90% of girls state that they're "not looking for hookups". Which is ok, but it's very sad when you say "I'm looking for a boyfriend" too, someone should tell them that. Why is it that my profile is getting such attention after I posted more "physical" pictures?

You don't "look" for a long term relationship... boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses happen when 2 people know each other and are comfortable, longing to be together. That happens after some interaction.

i reactivated my tinder two days ago and created a bumble one day ago. i do have one shirtless pic, but its cut off right below my shoulders so you cant see shit, basically just a face pic. over 20 matches on bumble and 10 on tinder. i havent bothered messaging anybody right now because im leaving for germany in a few days.

i have two pics with my dog and ive noticed the really hot chicks i match with that are way out of my league are also dog owners. if you own any pets, use it to your advantage.

also, try to make your bio more unique, because yours is pretty lame right now. if youre extremely good looking, it wont really matter. but for dudes like me who are more average looking, you gotta use the bio/cute pets/whatever other gimmicks to your advantage.

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 11:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

I was talking about scammers, reminded me of what's happening with me.

Two weeks ago I created Bumble and Tinder profiles to see what's up.
Pictures of me, mostly face/torso only, clothed, suit, T-shirt etc.

I got 2 matches on Tinder (0 on Bumble) in 2 weeks, and both messaged me after I said Hi with the same message "ur numberr" (sic)

Reported both as scam and deleted my accounts yesterday to recreate the profiles from scratch (and rematch and open the opportunity to be matched with again).

This time around I added a message on my profiles, saying only: "Looking to meet interesting and friendly people"
But I changed my pictures to have full body shots, and 2 shirtless pics (one of my back as I was in a river in Bern, and the other one shirtless driving a boat on lake Como in Italy). The locations are not known to anyone, and I don't workout, so I'm not buffed, but I'm lucky I don't gain weight easily.

Since late afternoon yesterday to this morning, so 12 hours, I already have 10 matches on Tinder and 1 on Bumble. And the conversations are flowing so they seem to be real girls...

The thing that struck me was: 90% of girls state that they're "not looking for hookups". Which is ok, but it's very sad when you say "I'm looking for a boyfriend" too, someone should tell them that. Why is it that my profile is getting such attention after I posted more "physical" pictures?

You don't "look" for a long term relationship... boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses happen when 2 people know each other and are comfortable, longing to be together. That happens after some interaction.

A carefully made profile on a dating site is gold I tell you. Rather than simply post what you normally would, cater to what women are looking for they will "bite" like crazy.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 11:39 AM

I feel empty now. Oh to not be an introvert lol

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 11:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Quote:

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

Quote:

Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Quote:

Originally Posted by Not_Judy

The Therapist Story:

At one point in my life I went through some pretty horrific life changing experiences. Rather than focus on what put me in therapy, I'll focus on the the therapist.

I go to my first session and I notice instantly that the counselor is attracted to me. I read people instantly, comes from being in sales and sales management most of my adult life. She giving all the tale-tale signs, can't get comfortable in her seat, over eye-contact, lips - licking them, biting them, touching them etc. and also doing everything she can not to project that she is attracted. We have our first session, I'm crying, she cries, offers advice for different perspective and whatnot as counselors do but at one point she reaches over and touches my leg. It did not go unnoticed on my end.

I have 5 more sessions with her. We become very comfortable with each other during the sessions and get to a place where we are laughing and smiling as I am working through my issues and our discussions. One evening I get a phone call from a cell phone number that wasn't stored as a contact in my phone and it was her calling from her personal cell phone. She informed me that she no longer worked for the group and she was calling her patients to inform them of the changes. She kept everything very professional stating no real reason as to why she was leaving but she did inform me that the office would be calling to make arrangements to set me up with another counselor. I honestly felt that mentally I was in a much better place and had been considering ending my counseling. I explained this to her and she agreed, she felt that I potentially needed to discuss a few more topics concerning my relationships with women as this was one of the issues I was having at the time and offered to meet with me one on one privately at no charge. I agreed.

The first private session took place at my home. She arrived and was dressed a little less formal that she did at her office but still very nice. I mentioned to her that it was nice to see her a little more comfortable in how she was dressed and she replied with it was nice to be a little less formal with meeting and having a low key session. She also made a comment that I instantly picked up on about being comfortable around me in general.

As we discussed my issues with relationships that I had she does the therapist thing and tells me that it stems from issues with my mother, blah, blah, blah...but as we continued and I started being a little more open about my dating habits I noticed her body language changed; she was intrigued.

The next session took place at my home as well. This time she showed up with her hair up, her glasses on, a form-fitting blue button down shirt (exposing cleavage) and a short black mini-skirt with high-heels. I had never seen her dress like this before. She explained that this would be our last private session and that she just wanted to talk and feel me out. Not real topics of conversation, she wasn't trying to dig deep into my psyche or any of the rest of it. I offered her a drink, she accepted and we sat in my living room had a few drinks, smoked a few cigarettes....at the time I smoked weed, she knew this and allowed me to smoke a bowl in front of her. We actually had a good time together. Without going into details and making this sound anymore like penthouse forums that it already has, lets just say the evening ending very well and we both learned a lot about each other.

That was 2013, I haven't seen her in 2 years but she still reaches out on occasion. in fact, she's the one that called this past weekend. She is still single and trying to find a man but keeps me posted on her dating experiences and wants to come see me for a random hook-up but I decline due to the girlfriend.

Keep these stories coming so we can keep coming (back to this thread, obviously)

I also picked up a chick on my second or third visit to the therapists office. I was sitting in the waiting room when she came in and was checking in whenI I noticed her pull her pants up and was mesmerized at her assets.

After she checked in she went outside to smoke and I joined her. Struck up a conversation with her and she was at my house that night. This chick was Cuh-Ray-Zee!!! Of course the sex was nothing short of some porno type shit. We got together a few times over about a month's time span until I finally couldn't take her crazy ads anymore and stopped responding to her texts.

What's porno type shit sex?

Nasty dirty sex - hair pulling. scratching biting etc. Multiple positions. Anything goes. She wasn't at worried about being self conscious or what I thought of her after. She had no inhibitions.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

How?

The internet? I have her number. I found everything. It all checks out. Even the dirty pics she sent lol

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Any examples of what to say?

I had a picture of my cat, but I took it out because they only allow 6 pictures.

I don't have any pets right now, but I just tossed the 1 photo on my phone of my last dog in some profiles (I'm not in the shot) so let's see if that changes anything.

King Rudi · 09-12-2018, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

But what does that mean exactly? Why should she feel ashamed for doing multiple positions?

She was not at bothered to go after what she wanted. Very aggressive and didn't just allow things to happen, she made them happen. She took what she wanted and then allowed me to do whatever I wanted to her with no hesitation. As far as positions go, most women don't go to reverse cowgirl or leaning back on me while in that position on the first go around, much less bring themselves to orgasm over and over again while you watch during breaks.

JamesWWIII · 09-12-2018, 11:52 AM

It’s long past time to just rename this thread, “DEAR PENTHOUSE FORUM...”

aozer · 09-12-2018, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Never_Enough

I don't have any pets right now, but I just tossed the 1 photo on my phone of my last dog in some profiles (I'm not in the shot) so let's see if that changes anything.

It should be a pic of you with your dog, a random pic of a dog isn’t gonna do shit haha

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by aozer

It should be a pic of you with your dog, a random pic of a dog isn’t gonna do shit haha

Can't hurt either way. Worst case it does nothing & I pull it.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

She didn't send you pics...

Sure thing. I'll get banned if a post a pussy shot so yea not doing it.

aozer · 09-12-2018, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Any examples of what to say?

I had a picture of my cat, but I took it out because they only allow 6 pictures.

No politics, religion, etc.

Keep it short and light hearted, like two or three sentences. Try to incorporate some humor and mention something you’re passionate about.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Like what? I'm lame at those and I stop when I try because I think "isn't that just going to make them filter out based on prejudice" or "shouldn't this be part of the discovery during in person meetings and such"...

Well, you're into cars. I mention that in my profiles. I also cook & bake so I mention that too.

Never_Enough · 09-12-2018, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Edit them out a bit to make them safe and anonymous... C'mon, we never asked anything from you lol

It's an up close & personal shot of her twat. Ain't no editing that.

Ugly beef curtains anyway!

aozer · 09-12-2018, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Like what? I'm lame at those and I stop when I try because I think "isn't that just going to make them filter out based on prejudice" or "shouldn't this be part of the discovery during in person meetings and such"...

I’m into skateboarding, so I mention that. Most girls don’t give a fuck about skateboarding but it shows that I’m active also probably into art and other shit that is involved in skate culture. I also have a pic of me skating so if you can add any pics that show your interests it helps.

Turkish Pickle · 09-12-2018, 12:36 PM

my bio changes depending on how im feeling, but currently it's "people tell me i make a great breakfast burrito". it shows that i can cook, and many people has tried it out in the morning...

also my height, a suburb near chicago and my hometown in turkey.

the most success i had was with a picture of me and my friend's dog, with the caption "she had to hold the dog for the picture". extremely cute dog, a solid 8.5/10 and me make for a great picture because preselection (i'm close enough with a hot girl) AND a super cute dog

Turkish Pickle · 09-12-2018, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by OnerDriver

Did all of the above.

I was actually character-limited in my description.

Said I moved here a year ago, so I don't know many people, interested in meeting bla bla filled my time with skiing here, racing my car in the summer (picture of me with helmet on), picture of me hugging my cat (I'm not fortunate enough to have a picture of a hot girl holding a cute dog with me), speak other languages and can probably teach some sentences in French.

Should I delete my profile and start over? Lol

you can delete your profile if you were like me and was just swiping everyone (read: fat chicks) while taking a shit. i did that, re-used the same pics and i was matching with hotter girls.

keep bio short i'd say, idk your age/target age but you'd want to think of it like a job interview (i think those two have a lot of similarities). give enough information to lead them to ask for details. you have a picture of you with a helmet, let her ask what do you do with it. cats are fine, cat girls can be weird but so can horse girls idk that's your call. also i'd say remove the part of not knowing many people, having social command is important at least in my experience. many times even if we're just walking to class i'll say hi to a few people i know and eventually get "wow you know so many people"

about deleting profile: tinder (apparently) has a weird algorithm. if you swipe on everyone but don't get many matches, it'll lower your "tier" to girls who swipe a lot but don't get many matches. if you are an average male but only match with fatties you might want to have a clear start.

09-12-2018, 11:02 AM	#289
King Rudi Lieutenant Colonel 13071 Rep 1,965 Posts Drives: Meat Suit Join Date: Sep 2017 Location: Planet Earth iTrader: (0)	The Therapist Story: At one point in my life I went through some pretty horrific life changing experiences. Rather than focus on what put me in therapy, I'll focus on the the therapist. I go to my first session and I notice instantly that the counselor is attracted to me. I read people instantly, comes from being in sales and sales management most of my adult life. She giving all the tale-tale signs, can't get comfortable in her seat, over eye-contact, lips - licking them, biting them, touching them etc. and also doing everything she can not to project that she is attracted. We have our first session, I'm crying, she cries, offers advice for different perspective and whatnot as counselors do but at one point she reaches over and touches my leg. It did not go unnoticed on my end. I have 5 more sessions with her. We become very comfortable with each other during the sessions and get to a place where we are laughing and smiling as I am working through my issues and our discussions. One evening I get a phone call from a cell phone number that wasn't stored as a contact in my phone and it was her calling from her personal cell phone. She informed me that she no longer worked for the group and she was calling her patients to inform them of the changes. She kept everything very professional stating no real reason as to why she was leaving but she did inform me that the office would be calling to make arrangements to set me up with another counselor. I honestly felt that mentally I was in a much better place and had been considering ending my counseling. I explained this to her and she agreed, she felt that I potentially needed to discuss a few more topics concerning my relationships with women as this was one of the issues I was having at the time and offered to meet with me one on one privately at no charge. I agreed. The first private session took place at my home. She arrived and was dressed a little less formal that she did at her office but still very nice. I mentioned to her that it was nice to see her a little more comfortable in how she was dressed and she replied with it was nice to be a little less formal with meeting and having a low key session. She also made a comment that I instantly picked up on about being comfortable around me in general. As we discussed my issues with relationships that I had she does the therapist thing and tells me that it stems from issues with my mother, blah, blah, blah...but as we continued and I started being a little more open about my dating habits I noticed her body language changed; she was intrigued. The next session took place at my home as well. This time she showed up with her hair up, her glasses on, a form-fitting blue button down shirt (exposing cleavage) and a short black mini-skirt with high-heels. I had never seen her dress like this before. She explained that this would be our last private session and that she just wanted to talk and feel me out. Not real topics of conversation, she wasn't trying to dig deep into my psyche or any of the rest of it. I offered her a drink, she accepted and we sat in my living room had a few drinks, smoked a few cigarettes....at the time I smoked weed, she knew this and allowed me to smoke a bowl in front of her. We actually had a good time together. Without going into details and making this sound anymore like penthouse forums that it already has, lets just say the evening ending very well and we both learned a lot about each other. That was 2013, I haven't seen her in 2 years but she still reaches out on occasion. in fact, she's the one that called this past weekend. She is still single and trying to find a man but keeps me posted on her dating experiences and wants to come see me for a random hook-up but I decline due to the girlfriend.
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