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Originally Posted by Now_Rudi
I'm going to jump in here. I'm 42. I got married in '99 to my children's mother, separated in '08, divorced in early '09, remarried again in '09 and single again in '15. The women of "our" demographic have a whole new world to deal with. Not only are most of them eat up with the social media bullshit just as the younger ladies are, you also have to contend with the whole MILF ideology that the porn industry has created. Every guy older than 17 is trying to get in on the older ladies due to this fantasy and a lot of them take it as an ego trip.
In this day and age, if you try to strike up a conversation with a woman in public you are labeled as a creep. If you ask for a phone number you are referred to social media and usually ignored unless your social media game is strong (basically being fake as hell like the rest of them).
If you try an online dating site don't expect much. You'll get women that throw themselves at you - these are the women that are constantly on these sites and never find a man - stay away from them unless you just want laid. You will also discover the "Why are there no good men left" candidates....these fall into the same category as above. In short, you need to keep in mind (as stated on here before) dating sites for women are like a never-ending carousel of dick for women to choose from. They hold all the cards and it's like a feeding frenzy. They have a continual supply of men trying to get in their pants and this makes them very reluctant to reply to you.
Expect to be ghosted, stood up or straight up ignored as soon as you find someone you like, as they will not stop their search just because they started talking to you and as soon as someone better comes along; you no longer exist to them.
Long story short, learn to get comfortable being by yourself. The dating pool = cesspool these days. People are shallow and no one has any notion of being reliable, dependable or accountable.
I wish I had better news for you. There are plenty of single ladies out there and some good ones, but they are incredibly difficult to find these days.
My advice, keep your emotions locked up tight until you find someone worth sharing them with. If you're a kindhearted person, you'll need to change this quickly.
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This is all very accurate. Unfortunately it has turned me into a jaded and bitter person.