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Originally Posted by Joekerr
You know, this is very interesting, watching this unfold, with my bucket of licorice (I don't like popcorn).
It really doesn't matter much what us guys think about the matter, so let's deal with only what the female posters have said.
Now, we all know Lups is basically a male, so she doesn't count even though she hasn't replied, and doing the opposite of whatever she recommends is actually usually a pretty good course of action to take in life.
Therefore, we have basically 100% of the females that normally post on here being very strongly in the camp of "You shouldn't have done that". Which suggests they would have been offended had they been in your gf's shoes.
We have, as an opposing viewpoint, your gf, who appears to be happy with what you've done, or at the very least, not upset at all with you. Which is completely contradictory to our female contingent's feelings on the matter.
Now, it seems to me either one of two things is happening here:
1. Despite her words to the contrary, she is a little miffed at you, and you will soon find this out. The next argument should bring this to light if it is going to come up.
2. Because she was originally a little insecure about the relationship and how you feel about her, she takes your actions as positive, as it reinforces you care. Which would then mean that you were right to intervene. Which also means that depending on the woman, you could be right to intervene or you could be wrong.
Which all just boils down to women being fickle creatures and you don't have a hope of understanding them, so love them anyway and do what you were going to do because you have a 50% shot at getting it right anyways. And at least you'll be temporarily happy with yourself while you are doing what you wanted to do. 
Time is a great teacher. |
Joe your brilliance never ceases to amaze me. Your analytical ability to break things down to the rawest essence is what my friends come to me for and it bewilders me when you do it to me. I asked several of my friends about this situation today and what they would have done. All of them said they would have done the exact same thing I did. The perplexes the shit out of me. I've gotten mixed reviews on this.
The thing that does actually bother me about it is that I have gone from a take it or leave it stance with her to sending some guy a message basically planting my flag in her ass. WTF is wrong with me???
It's quite obvious that I care about her and enjoy our time together. Yes it is true that she is a good woman and I am quite fortunate to have her in my life but how the hell did I get here with all these damn feelings emotions and whatnot?
As long as she isn't upset about it...I mean genuinely not upset; not the kind of upset where she states that she isn't but then brings it up months later, then I'm ok with it. Deep down I feel like I should have just overlooked it and said or done nothing. Either way, lesson learned....no more messages to random guys who hit on my girl online.....next time, I drive to their house and beat them senseless like a real man.
I kid, I kid....