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Every once in a while I look up those I was close to in my teens and 20s. I get to feeling nostalgic about "the good old days" and think re-connecting with some would be cool. I then see 97% of them are still living the exact lives they were 20-25 years ago. Dead end, low paying jobs, I'm talking Starbucks, grocery stores, record shops...I then see the majority of their free time is spent partying, drinking...all the while complaining about not having rent money, or how difficult it is to support themselves. I'm not necessarily judging, if they're cool with all that, more power to'em, but I've "evolved" and that isn't what I want out of life, so I choose to not reach out. Maybe this isn't the same situation as yours, but I think it applies somewhat. You have to look at the pros/cons of the friendship. Does he bring anything into it that you appreciate, and/or would miss greatly if it was gone? Do those pros outweigh the cons? Does he bring you down, or lift you up?
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